In this episode, we are showing you how to expand your vision of what you desire in your life by creating a RockStar Vision.
We encourage you to dig deeper, get clarity and stop settling for less. We give you tools, tactics, examples, inspiration and the actionable tools to help you take steps in the direction of your ultimate vision for your life.
Transcript: (Read Time: 29 Minutes)
Dr. Dan: Hey fellow RockStars, Dr Dan here, and in this episode we are going to be talking about having a RockStar vision, right.
Siri Shakti: That's right.
Dr. Dan: All right. Now this is … There's a reason why we selected this as one of our first podcasts, is because we tried to organize it in what is most important to start with, and a RockStar vision, and let me explain why it is so important. Because imagine of you're, okay, so just like driving in a car, right, let's say you need to drive from Los Angeles, which is near us right, so you have to drive from Los Angeles to, let's say Canada, right, make it kind of far.
I think that's 20 something hours, maybe 30 hours, close on 30 hours if you're to drive straight, right.
Siri Shakti: I don't think from here, I think it's less.
Dr. Dan: From here it's 25. I should have …
Siri Shakti: I think he's wrong.
Dr. Dan: Okay, cool, so let's say 24 or so hours. I guess we should probably look it up now …
Siri Shakti: I'm Googling that.
Dr. Dan: She's making a big, big deal about it right. Okay, so if you need to drive from here to there, and you don't already know the path to get there, that's going to be a challenge, especially if you don't have a map and you don't have GPS, right. If you don't have a map and GPS, then what are your options? Get in the car and just drive around until you …
Siri Shakti: Going all over the place, not knowing where the heck you are.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I mean you wouldn't even know it's supposed to take 20 something hours to get there. I mean let's say you did know at least it's going to take 25 hours, let's say 25 hours to get there. Are you just going to drive in one direction for 25 hours? Then if you're not there go, “Oh I guess I was wrong, let me try a different direction.” Just keep doing that?
Well, that's how people are living their life today, because they're just out there, just throwing stuff against the wall and hoping it sticks. That's how they're living their life, I mean that might be how you might be living your life. I know that's how we used to.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, just waking up, just doing the same thing every day, just the same grind, and not really having any vision or idea of what it is that they want for their life, and so every day is just like the same, and wondering why they're not fulfilled.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, so once, and I'm trying to think back now, on the spot, when I first learned about this.
Siri Shakti: Was it Tony?
Dr. Dan: Probably Tony, I don't know. I mean I read a lot of books back then too, because you remember I … Back in, when you first met me, I had never read an entire book in my entire life. Even in school, they would tell me to, “Oh you need to read this book.” I would read, maybe a paragraph and I'd forget what I read.
Siri Shakti: You'd do the footnotes.
Dr. Dan: I wouldn't even do the footnotes because I just could not remember what I read, because it just … I didn't realize that it wasn't because … Now looking back I understand it just didn't interest me, and that's why it never stuck. It's because it didn't interest me. I remember when we met, I was in my mid-20's I guess, and you took me to a bookstore.
Siri Shakti: I love bookstores.
Dr. Dan: You took me to a bookstore, and you said, “Okay we're going to have some fun, and you can pick out a book.” I'm like …
Siri Shakti: It is fun.
Dr. Dan: Trust me, I'm going to pick out a book. “Just trust me, just do it.” I think you told me, “Just walk around until something interests you.” I got to this self-help, self-development area, which I'd never been to before, and picked up a book, and … I'm trying to remember what the name of it was, but I have it on my bookshelf.
Siri Shakti: Think and Grow Rich.
Dr. Dan: No, that wasn't the first one, that was one of the first ones though. I think it was, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, it was yeah, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. I actually have it in my office. I had re-purchased it because I must have lost it or something, and put it on my bookshelf as a memento of one of the things that I read first.
I remember reading it, and after, and it was like a lot of short stories, and I'd never even knew something was like that, a lot of short stories of inspiration and things that you can do in your life, and examples of people's stories, and I thought, “Wow, this is amazing.” I went through that book in maybe a day or two, and I was just like more, more, more. It's like, for those of you that remember the movie Short Circuit, with Johnny 5, right, he became alive. Johnny 5 is alive. I remember he was like, “Input, input, need more input.”
That's how I was, I was like give me books, and I was just reading books non-stop, just I was going crazy for an entire, I think it was at least for a year if not two years. I read so many books then I discovered audio books on top of that, and I started listening to books, and then when I wasn't reading I was listening. I was consuming it so much …
Siri Shakti: I don't think you listened to any music that whole year, it was just, actually two years, three years, I don't know what it was, but you were constantly listening to knowledge, and you were just so inspired. I remember that.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, and the reason I'm bringing that up is because I learned that, from that I learned that, that was the GPS or the map to success, I was learning now, without even realizing, I was learning from other people. They left clues of things that they had done and things that they had tried and the triumphs that they had and the pitfalls and all the things that happened to them, and without even realizing it I was like, “Oh this is how I do this.”
That's, at that point, right before then, I didn't even go through this, but I found an old tape series by Tony Robbins in my mom's closet, and that was actually one of the, if not the … That was, yeah, that was the pivotal moment in my life that turned everything in my life, because I was going … Not in a good place, and we'll get into that later.
From that, from Tony, I'd actually … One of his exercises was, write down everything that you want in your life, right, which is exactly what we're taking about right now, with a twist.
I remember, one of the things was, write down the perfect woman that you want to attract in your life. I wrote down all these things, I'm like okay, blonde hair, blue eyes, five foot ten.
Siri Shakti: Really… LOL. Yes, yes, yes.
Dr. Dan: With a great sense of humor. At least I got one of those things right, I got one. A great sense of humor.
Siri Shakti: Oh thank you LOL.
Dr. Dan: No, exactly, she'll choke me off-screen. Yeah, so I wrote down all the things that I wanted, and I think it was within two weeks, boom, I met my wife right, I met my lovely wife, and it was an arranged marriage. No, it wasn't arranged. Because I did say, “I met my wife.” Right, well now my wife, right, and those were some of the things that I had written down, and I attracted into my life.
When I say attract, when we talk about attract, we're not talking about, oh if you just write down, “I want this,” then you're going to get it. Or if you're just going to sit there, so I can't write I want $1-million on this paper, and then just sit here and meditate and …
Siri Shakti: They'll just deliver it to your door
Dr. Dan: Focus and concentrate, and then somebody's going to ring my doorbell and drop off $1-million. Could I happen? I mean yeah, anything could happen, but what's the likeliness, yeah, I mean it's a little different than me going outside … And again we'll get into his, but me going outside and actually pushing forward to achieve this, actually getting out there and taking the steps. Putting my clothes on, putting my shoes on, walking outside, meeting people.
Siri Shakti: I'm glad you put your clothes on when you go outside.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I almost forgot that part. I would have been in my underwear. Imagine, imagine … Another way of looking at this as well is if you wanted to start a business let's say, what would be cooler, or what would be smarter? Would it be to sit there and just get out there an guess, to start a business? Without asking for any help, and mentorship, any … Nothing, right, don't read anything, don't research anything, just get out there and just start doing it, and don't do any, don't learn anything else other then you just doing it and trying and failing, trying and failing.
Or … And that's how a lot of people will run their business, and some will … That's why they say, out of … I forgot the percentage, but it's something like, out of 10 businesses nine will fail in the first three to five years, or some crazy number like that, right. It's because that's what they do, that's how they run their business, but imagine if you had the opportunity to learn directly from somebody like let's say Jeff Bezos right, who owns Amazon right, and he's a multi-billionaire. I think they were saying he might be the first trillionaire or something like that in the business world.
Or like let's say Elon Musk, right, Tesla and SpaceX. Right, or Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook. I mean if you could learn directly from those people, and even if they're not in your industry or your business or your niche, you can still learn a lot of lessons from them, because they're smart dudes.
Siri Shakti: Well their success leaves clues, and that's one thing that I originally, myself, at least I learned this from Tony Robbins, and there's so many people talk about this, but that's who I first heard it from, is that if there's something that you want in your life, then find the person that is living that already, that has that life or is doing that in their life, and follow the breadcrumbs right. If it has to do with business, follow the steps of business. If it has to do with relationships, study how do these people have this awesome relationship.
I know for me, recently I wanted to start working on my spiritual life, and so I started watching some different YouTube videos, and there you go, there was the Dalai Lama, and I'm not the Dalai Lima, but I thought, “Hey, the Dalai Lama, he's a cool guy.” I was listening to this video, and he was talking about his own personal practice, and one of his is he wakes up early in the morning … How he wakes up at three o'clock in the morning, I'm not quite there yet, I had been waking up early for my spiritual/yoga practice for years but stopped briefly. But he inspired me to start waking up at 5:00 a.m again., doing my yoga practice, doing my meditation, because …
Dr. Dan: We do wake up at 3:00, 3:30 a.m. Eastern time.
Siri Shakti: Well yeah, exactly, a good point. Yeah, so that's just one example of me following the breadcrumbs. I want to feel uplifted in that way …
Dr. Dan: Well actually I think I said that backward, because Eastern is actually ahead of us right, so if it's 3:00 a.m. there it would actually be midnight here. Never mind, my bad.
Siri Shakti: Oh, that's okay, we understood what you were saying.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I'm not that great at math.
Siri Shakti: That's okay. Yeah, so one of the things too, about this RockStar vision is clarity is power. One thing that I've done myself, and I know Dan has done this, and I haven't done it just once, I've done it multiple times. I get very clear of what it is that I want to create, and I sit down, I'll find a nice quiet space, find a place where there are no distractions, and go within yourself, take some time to think about and feel what it is that you want for your future, for short-term, long-term goals, and get that stuff on paper.
When you get it on paper it starts to become real and like I said, this is something that you can do multiple times, because as you grow, as you change, your visions are just going to get even more extraordinary, so you're going to want to re-visit this. He also mentioned that it's not just about thinking something and expecting it all to just happen, right.
Commitment is also a very big part of it because what we do first is we find clarity, we find what it is that we want to create, and then we connect to it. Commitment, the kind of commitment that I'm talking about is that type of commitment that is unwavering. It means that I'm going to achieve this, I'm going to have this no matter what. There are no ifs and or buts about it, I mean it may take a week, it may take two months, it may take a year or two years.
I mean it's not necessarily how long it takes, but just knowing that you're going to stay focused on the goal and on your desires until you achieve them. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Exactly, and again, like Siri Shakti was just saying, I mean you can use these from everything from business to … If you want to learn spirituality or yoga or whatever it is that you want to achieve, you can … I mean you guys don't know how … excuse me, you don't know how good you have it today. Yeah, we're going to go there, right, but you don't know how good, yeah, you kids have it so good today, because I mean with like the internet, YouTube and I mean it can go both ways right, you have so much amazing information out there, and then there's also a lot of crap out there too, so you've got to weed through the junk, right, and learn that.
It's allowing you to shortcut right, find the shortcut, find the … I'm not a gamer any more right, but it's like those old games, or even games today. I've actually got a great example, I was playing a game, I was actually playing it a few years ago, playing Grand Theft Auto, starting to get back into video games, and there was this one scene where you were this biker, and you were on a bike, motorcycle, and you were chasing down these other bad guys, and you had to shoot and do something, and I remember, I was like, “Man, I just cannot get past this scene. What's going on? I don't really understand what's going on.”
This just shows you how well this is ingrained in me now, right, I'm like, well I'm not going to waste hours just so I can say, “Oh I figured it out on my own.” I mean great. I'd have a badge of honor, what am I going to go and walk around and tell everybody, “Guess what I did? I've just beat Grand Theft Auto. This one scene, this one part of it, I couldn't figure it out for five hours, but I did it on my own.” I mean do you think people are going to be high-fiving me everywhere?
No, I mean my time is valuable, I've got other things I'd rather do that than spend five hours. I went on YouTube and searched gameplay, for that game, and there were people that go through the entire game while they're playing. Here's what you do. I'm like “Oh cool.” Then I just continued on, and it's like me and my partner Ben, we actually created this rule for ourselves, because I remember there was this, what was it?
I think we were using WordPress, and we were building a site, we were doing something, we were adding some kind of tweak to it, or code, and we were using a plug-in because we were just about to launch one of our products, and we have thousands of people that purchase our products on a launch, and we came up with this really cool idea that we were going to do that was going to probably bring in an extra $10,000 to $20,000 in the next 24 to 48 hours.
I think, at the time I was the one that had to add something in the code or something, and I was trying to figure out, I'm not a coder, and I'm not really technical, but I can figure some stuff out, by the way we call it duct taping right, but I'm trying to figure it out, and something just wouldn't work, and sometimes a plug-in or something, if you use a dollar sign or something in the text, it can have a bug in that plug-in or in that tweak, that would destroy and make it not work or not save or something.
It was just something that was taking an hour or two hours to figure out, and I finally figured it out. I think it took me a little over two, three hours to figure out because I had to get it done. Then the next day I'm talking to my partner Ben, and I'm like, “Hey Ben, man, it took me three hours to figure this one thing out.” I said, “In case you need, you ever run into it, here's what you do to work it around.” He's like, “Oh dude I'm sorry man.” He's like, “I had that problem last month doing something, and it took me three hours to figure it out too.”
I'm like, “Oh man, I was like here's a new rule, any time something takes us longer than half an hour to figure out on our own, we need to talk to the other person and see if they've already figured …” So me call him and be like, “Hey Ben, did you already figure this out? Or do you know how to get around this?” Even today, we'll constantly do that. Sometimes we'll just get on the phone or get on Skype or get on a Gotowebinar and share a screen, share our screens.
I'll be like, we're doing stuff and I'm … And I'll have an idea to get past a certain tweak that he didn't even think of. Or he'll think of something and be like, “Oh do this.” That saves us so much time. This is pretty much the exact same thing that we're teaching you, is to create that map, that GPS, to get past there, right.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, and something else too is, you've probably all heard this before, to be realistic right, or that, I mean …
Dr. Dan: Get your head out of the clouds.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, oh, right, or even, I've heard that before.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, plenty of times. Yeah, they don't say that anymore though.
Siri Shakti: Your head was way up here in those clouds.
Dr. Dan: Oh yeah.
Siri Shakti: It still is.
Dr. Dan: Oh yeah, yeah, nobody says “Get your head out of the clouds” anymore that's interesting.
Siri Shakti: No.
Dr. Dan: If you're ever sitting there saying, “Oh I'm going to show them. I'm going to achieve success so I can show those people and all these naysayers, and I'm going to get that sweet revenge by having all the success.” Don't expect that, because once you make it, they're just going to say things like either, “Hey, I'm proud of you.” Or, “I knew you could do it.” You're not going to want that …
Siri Shakti: Yes, we want that too.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, so it's pretty cool. It's its own reward. Getting there, it's an unspoken reward.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, and when you're setting out to create a new vision, I'm not going to say it's always going to be roses, I mean there's been so many visions that we have set, that ended up feeling so challenging to end up mastering. One that comes to mind for me is homeschooling, because I went into homeschooling our kids with no clue of what the heck I was doing. I was also deeply confused of how to go about it, because you get online and just like you were saying, talk about information, well first of all on one side there's amazing information, a world of great information on homeschooling, but on the other side, it's daunting.
For someone that had no clue of what, how home schooling was supposed to go, I was lost in the information. I went through a lot of doubt, and within the experience, and it's so nice I can talk about this now, because I've gone, mastered this, hallelujah … You got to go through it with me. I mean day after day I went through a lot of emotions, and that was also part of the healing that I had to go through of believing in myself.
What I mean is that, you may set a goal for yourself, a vision, and don't expect that it's always going to be so easy. Actually 99% of the time you're going to have to go through that pressure, that tension, to grow and get to where you want to be.
Dr. Dan: Well if it was easy then you wouldn't want to do it anyway.
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: I mean, if you're a person that plays video games, do you play video games because they're super easy and you can win every single time with no effort whatsoever? No.
Siri Shakti: No.
Dr. Dan: The same thing in life, life is a game, right, in a way. If it's not challenging, then you're going to get really bored. I can say that with first-hand experience, because I mean, when I was in the real estate business, and I was investing and doing stuff like that, I had people coming up to me constantly and begging me to teach them what I did. “Oh you've got all these cars, you've got this great house, or houses. You've got this custom Harley motorcycle, you've got all these cool things, you've got all these …”
I used to always wear these diamond watches, a full diamond watch, all around, and big-assed diamond earrings and diamonds everywhere, and all this bling, and people would be like, “What do you do? Teach me, teach me.” Things like that, but again I wasn't challenged any more, and it didn't fulfill me, and so I learned at that point, man I've got to do something else. It's got to be challenging, and if it isn't challenging you're not going to want to do it, it's not going to be fun.
Or if it's not rewarding, I mean for me that stuff was not very fulfilling, compared to this stuff, right.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, absolutely.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, so what are … Before we get into how to create a RockStar vision for yourselves, let's first get into what are some of the things that you might want to create a vision for. What are some of the things that maybe some of them want to do? Maybe they have a book within them. They want to write. They have some knowledge or a story or something they want to share with the world.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Well I think that, I mean gosh, there's such a wide range of things, because often times we even have something within us that we haven't really expressed to the world. For myself, I always knew I was artistic, but I didn't know that I wanted to be an artist. As I sat down and dug deeper within myself, I realized I want to paint, I want to make these amazing pillows, things like that, so …
Dr. Dan: We're not even talking about for monetary value here, we're not talking about, oh she wants to create art so she can make a living from it, but maybe some of you do. Maybe some of you want to leave … Maybe you're in the finance world, maybe you work at a bank, maybe you work at … You're the manager at McDonald's or something, or some other place, and you're just like, “Man, I don't want to do this any more for a living. That I want to be an artist, and be able to live off of that money.”
“Or maybe I want to be a yoga instructor, or maybe I just want to learn yoga, it's not about the money, I'm going to learn yoga and then find my true passion that I want to do for money on top of that.” Right, so there's a lot of different things that might be something that you want to get into, that you want to do in your life.
Siri Shakti: I think that there's almost two sides to this, because often times when we think about creating our visions, we think of the typical stuff, like business and health and relationship.
Dr. Dan: Or for guys, money, cars.
Siri Shakti: Money, cars, yeah, yeah …
Dr. Dan: Women.
Siri Shakti: Because those are the things that we're so … Those will be, because those are extremely important. Those are some of the things that you're going to be tapping into. Also it's those things like we were just saying, there is so much inside of us, that many times we aren't tuning into, we think, oh maybe that's silly. That's really that authenticity of digging deeper. That's another thing I meant to say, digging deeper inside of yourself.
Because many times it's not going to be the most obvious surface thing. That's why I love to find spaces that are quiet, where I can sit down and meditate on this, because then things will come up that I hadn't really thought about before. I mean I'm sure you've experienced the same thing too.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I mean I was just thinking about something that might be really cool, is we should probably put … And we didn't mention this, but the rockstarinlife.com, so www.rockstarinlife.com is our blog site and we'll have our podcast there as well, so no matter where you're listening to this from, whatever platform, you can always get to rockstarinlife.com, so rockstarinlife.com.
We'll have show notes there, we'll have downloads, we'll have bonus stuff in there as well, and we'll probably even have some meditations and yoga stuff that you could actually do that would help manage … So a lot of the things that we talk about that will help manage best things in your lives, right.
Siri Shakti: Absolutely, yeah. Yeah, we'll put that together for sure. That's yeah, for sure.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, so what are … Let's first talk about how we did it okay, and again, some of the things that we learned from our mentors, and whether it be books or coaches that I have hired, and I've spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on coaches, actually 100,000 plus on just one coach, and a lot more on other coaches as well. One of the things that really helped me in the beginning was what people call a vision board or a dream board.
We don't call it vision board or a dream board. What do we call it?
Siri Shakti: Nope, we call it a reality board, because it felt weird saying vision, because we knew that these were things that were going to be a reality, so we wanted to put as much power into it as possible, a reality board.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, or even a dream board. It's like dreams happen when you're sleeping, right I don't want to dream …
Siri Shakti: Yeah, we don't want you to dream about the …
Dr. Dan: Yeah, why would I want to dream of those? Well I want to dream about this so I can never have it. Come on, no, it isn't going to happen. That wasn't powerful for me to want to achieve those things, so I … And actually at the point when I called it a reality board, again it wasn't something that I was just like, oh this sounds good, it was because we made 95% of the stuff on the board, that we had on there, a reality.
At that point I was like, this is not a dream, this is not a vision, this is a reality. Anything I put on this board I'm going to have. Now why was it 95%? Because the 5% I didn't get wasn't because I couldn't get it, it was because my own vision changed. I no longer wanted certain things, at that point I was like, I could get a Lamborghini, but it wasn't really important to me because I had three kids and there were other things that were more important to me.
I mean heck, right now our daughter is in, full-time competes in dance, and I was … I joke about it, she always get mad at me, but I joke about it and I tell my daughter, “If you didn't dance we could actually have two Lamborghini's, for the cost that it costs to pay for your tuition at dance.” Yeah, so there are things that are more …
Siri Shakti: She loves it when you say that.
Dr. Dan: I know she does. The other thing is, because I work from home, and Siri Shakti doesn't have to work, I mean she has her things that she wants to do, and homeschooling as well.
Siri Shakti: Home schooling, yeah.
Dr. Dan: I don't drive. I mean she drives to the grocery store and to take our daughter to dance. Besides that, I mean I maybe drive, I don't know, 100 miles a month at the most, maybe 50 miles. I mean I don't need to, I'm talking about by myself. I'm not talking about for driving around with the family, to go get ice cream or something like that, but I don't really need to drive anywhere.
It's just not very … Yeah, so I didn't need that any more, right, or a 100 foot yacht, or something like that, which I would love to have at some point, but right now it's not something that I want to put in my vision to make a reality yet, because I don't even want to maintain this 4,000 plus square foot home that we live in, so I'm still fine with that. Yeah, that we're not going on the ocean that often.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, the same was with mine. I mean they're … Pretty much 90% of what I put on my board would always manifest. I think one of the key things is when you are making your reality board, you want to see images that when you see the image you feel that inspiration. It's an image that you're just like, “Oh my gosh, that's so awesome.” You also want your reality board to be in a spot where you can see it every single day.
I know for myself I had it in the living-room, I think at one point mine was above the fireplace. Instead of having a family photo it was my reality board. Because the goal was, is I want to see it every day, and I want to feel that emotion every day, because that's going to keep me going, that's going to keep me inspired.
Dr. Dan: Well we also wanted to make sure they understand what that is, what a reality board is. I just thought about, “Maybe they don't even know.” Some people are like, “What is this thing you're talking about?”
Siri Shakti: Yeah, a good point.
Dr. Dan: A reality board, and what some other people called a theme board, was basically, you can … I mean you can do it in many ways, but it might be, you go to an arts and crafts store and I think even like Target and a lot of what are those places called? Staples …
Siri Shakti: Walmart's or yeah.
Dr. Dan: Walmart's. I mean what's the other ones? Home, not Home Depot. Maybe Home Depot. I don't know, but a lot of those …
Siri Shakti: Even a grocery store.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, a lot of stores will have those poster boards. It's like a white paper, or whatever color you want to get that's a little thicker than regular paper, and what you can do is, and back in our day, we had to get magazines and cut them up and you had to go buy the Robb Report if you wanted to put in a nice car and a nice house in there, and things like that, but today you just print them out from online.
Siri Shakti: We has to take our horse and carriage to the grocery store.
Dr. Dan: Walk in the snow barefoot.
Siri Shakti: To the market.
Dr. Dan: That's right and we all had accents like this. That's how we talked back then. We didn't have the internet. Yeah, you'd cut things up and cut out the things that you wanted, whether it be a car, a house, a boat, a family. You don't have a family, a wife, whatever it is, or a husband. You'd cut these things out and … Or a trip, or a vacation, and you'd put them all around your board, all the things that you wanted.
I took it a step further, part of the vision of making a reality is I started looking up how much each item would cost me, so let's say if you wanted to go … One of the things that we had on there was going to Fiji, so you can write down how much it will cost to go on that trip. I think, I want to say it was about, where we went, it was like four or five grand or something, so it was five grand, so you put down $5,000, what it will cost.
Now you can go for a lot cheaper if you stay at a different resort, or something like that, or even Airbnb or whatever they've got in Fiji, something like that, you can get for a heck of a lot less, but you write down how much that's going to cost you, or if it's … Let's say you want to get a Tesla X, you write down $120,000, $130,000, that's what it's going to cost. Something like that you that you can actually lease, or make payments on, you're not putting down the cash, you could find how much that's going to cost on a monthly basis, so how much do I need to make in order to be able to pay it?
It helps take you to that next step of reality. That's something that I did. It can be anything of those things, it could be a business that you want to start. You can put that down. It could be, like I said, you want to write a book, and you want to make it a best-selling book, well you find a book online that says, it's a blank book that says, Best Seller, or something like that. Or you print somebody else's book and you just write your own name of the book that you want to write. You title it whatever, and you just put your name on it.
It's a vision of the things that you want to achieve in your life, or you want to be fit, you want to be healthier, so you put a picture, I mean you cut our somebody that's fit and in shape, you can cut their head off and put your own head on top of that, right, or you can Photoshop it or whatever. I mean heck, you can even go Fiverr, for those of you who don't know of Fiverr, F-I-V-E-R-R.com.
You can hire somebody on there for five bucks or whatever, and they will actually cut … If you don't know Photoshop, and they'll cut, they'll take a … You send them a picture of somebody that you want to look like, and send them a picture of you, and they can cut your head out and put it perfectly on there so it looks like perfect. I mean those are things that they can do for you. Yeah, so doing those things, and also writing in a journal is another thing that I'd like to touch upon, is one thing that I used to do every single day, was …
Siri Shakti: I still do.
Dr. Dan: My wife still does.
Siri Shakti: Every day.
Dr. Dan: I used to write in a journal, a day in the life of me. I'd make it like, every day I'd write at least one page, if not two pages, in just like one of those Mead journals, right MEAD, M-E-A-D, right, because that's like the standard journal, but I also had other journals that were nicely bound and stuff, and I'd write down, tomorrow … Or I'd write down, actually what I'd write down is I'd write down all the great things that were awesome for today, and I would just come up with things that I was grateful for today, and I'd write it out.
Then, afterward, I would write what's going to be great about tomorrow, and that's where I got to create a vision, I got to write the story. At the time I was writing, hey I'm going to find this property and be able to flip it for this much. Or I'm going to attract this into my life, or somebody's going to give me $10,000 for something that I was selling, or something like that.
I'd write down, and I'd go through the whole story, we had a lovely breakfast with the family, and I would go through the whole thing and just write out everything that's going to be great about tomorrow. I was writing my story for the next day.
Siri Shakti: That's a good idea. I wasn't doing all that. That's cool …
Dr. Dan: I'd just write some stuff.
Siri Shakti: No, I would, what I'd do, and Brian's going to start implementing that show like that, but I would always write down, or still, write down at the end of the day, what my day was like, and also what I was grateful for. What were my blessings. What was something that I learned today? Yeah, I mean that's, it's such a valuable tool, when you can get things down on paper.
Dr. Dan: Well I like what you said, and I want to mention this again too, because it's pretty important, is to put it somewhere that you're going to see it every single day. I know we had, at one point … You could write, make multiple ones, so it doesn't have to be the … You can make either more than one, and put it all around different parts of the house. Or you can make the same one and then just copy it, and have that same one in different places. It's completely up to you.
I would put one in our bedroom where I would see it as soon as I woke up, and be able to look at it. That was one place. I remember also having one in the front living-room, and I know, in the beginning, you struggle with things like that, because you'd be like, “Oh I'm embarrassed, because when people come over and they look at that, and they talk about it.” For me, I was like, number one, I don't care, number two, I'm making it even stronger by being able to talk to people about it that see it.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, that's true, that people would … I got past that eventually, but people would always come over and they would say, “What is this? What are all these pictures” it would end up becoming this awesome conversation, and sure enough 90% of the people would go home and make their own reality board. I mean friends, family, and it was like …
Dr. Dan: That's the thing about it, I should … I made a reality board of somebody else making a reality board, and made it a reality.
Siri Shakti: That's awesome.
Dr. Dan: That's some twilight stuff there.
Siri Shakti: That's so cool.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, so I mean inspired other people to do it as well, so don't be afraid of that. The one thing that I would recommend is, I would recommend not just sharing all the things that you want to achieve in your life with every single person. That's something that we love to teach people, say look, don't share … If you've got a negative person in your life, we call them spiritual vampires, and they are constantly saying, “Get your head out of the clouds, or that will never happen for you, or you're not smart enough.”
Whatever it is, if they just don't support your dreams, and I'm sorry if it's a family member or a husband or a wife or whatever, don't talk to them about everything that you want to do in your life, because they're not really going to be able to help you get there, and you don't want people making you feel … I mean not that anybody can make you feel a certain way, but you need more support in your life.
Like I had said to my wife, “You don't talk to a bunch of sick people about all your exercise goals that you want to do, because they can't contribute at all. You don't want to talk to, and this will be a whole other discussion, but you don't want to women that have been divorced two or three times, and never had a successful relationship, about your own relationship or your own marriage that you're having a challenge with, because their advice is going to be the advice that probably got them divorced, or got them … Broke up their marriage or relationship or whatever.”
Siri Shakti: I think also that, we call it spiritual vampires, I know at least for myself, when I would set a new goal, a new vision, and I set out to create that, it was still fragile, and because there is that sensitivity there, because you are, you haven't mastered it yet, right, you're working towards it. It's like this newborn baby right, you wouldn't expect it to get up and start walking when it's this newborn baby.
Dr. Dan: You've got to support the head and the neck, because it's soft and they can't hold their own head up, and they're flopping all over the place, so your a little baby, your a little baby, and you've got to be supported, so you've got to find other people that can help support you. People that are like-minded, and get around those people. Again one important thing though, is if it is your spouse that's pretty negative, it does not mean leave that person, okay. That's not what we're saying. Please don't do that right, unless they're hurting you physically or anything like that, right.
Seek out professional help in those cases, physical or mental, but find other people that are like-minded, a group, and support each other. That's awesome, support each other. I mean just something as little as like … I'm not saying it's little, but for you, you were doing triathlons, and you're still doing them, but when you first started it was a lot harder on your own, but then you found a group inside, from one of the triathlons, that are all motivating each other right.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, and then yeah, and it was so cool because there were so many questions. I didn't know much about the triathlon world, and I met these women and I started learning from them, because they had experience, and there you go, I was on my way.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Okay, so let's give you, let's wrap this up, let's give everybody a RockStar …
Siri Shakti: Mission.
Dr. Dan: Mission, yeah.
Siri Shakti: A RockStar Mission.
Dr. Dan: I like it like Mission Impossible, how does that one go? It's like, “Here's your mission agent whatever, if you choose to accept it, and this is going to self-destruct, right.”
Siri Shakti: This one won't self-destruct, okay.
Dr. Dan: Right, unless you self-destruct it right, unless you, if you ignore it. Okay, so what we want you to do, here's what your mission is, okay, here's what you need to do. Create a reality board, at least one right. Cut out the things that you want to achieve in your life, the things that you want to attract in your life, the things that you might want to manifest in your life, the things that you … Again, that you want to achieve, it could be again like we said, it could be things that are thing things, right, like a boat, a house, a helicopter or a private plane. It can be cars, motorcycles, it could be trips, it can be again …
Siri Shakti: A new hobby that you want to partake in, or …
Dr. Dan: Kids, it could be kids, write a best-selling book, or write a book, right, I mean to become an artist, and you want to paint art a certain way, or you want to do something. Put those things out … Put those, cut them out, print them up, cut them out, put them on there, and hang it somewhere you're going to see it every day, at least create one of them. Create more if you want to be an over-achiever, and get even more, right.
The second part, and again this is optional, but I highly recommend doing it, is grabbing a journal and writing down all the things that were great for today, right. That's something that we call celebrating your wins. It's one of the RockStar lessons that we'll be talking about pretty soon. That's part of it, is writing down what was great about today, and what will be great about tomorrow. Some of the things that you're going to achieve tomorrow.
This is where you can have fun, because it's all a story and it hasn't happened right, so if it hasn't happened, then why not make it really cool.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, or what are you going to do different tomorrow? I mean sometimes changes, just like the most subtle change, makes that big of a difference. Like tomorrow I'm going to spend an extra 15 minutes with my son or my daughter, and really connect and see what they're doing, what they're interested in. Yeah, right.
Dr. Dan: I love it, yeah. That's your RockStar mission for you to do, and I believe our next episode, we're going to be talking about breaking the rules, and that's going to be a fun one, because that's also very, very important to us. We didn't, I don't want to go too much into it, but without learning that lesson, breaking the rules, I mean we would still be stuck in a dead-end job, and not going anywhere. It wasn't until we'd learned that on our own, you've just got to break free, and that's learning to break the rules in many different ways, not just in business, but in life and relationships and everything else.
That'll be on the next episode, and again, go to rockstarinlife.com and you can download the show notes and we'll have a transcript there, in case you want to read what we've just talked about, word for word, while you're watching, or you want to take notes from that alone as well. We're also, again we'll be adding a bunch of stuff on meditations and yoga, and anything that we recommend, and cool stuff like that.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, I'm going to get started on having some great yoga videos on there. I'll be posting some meditations, some yoga sets, that will also be another podcast too, getting into that, because I have a lot to say about that.
Dr. Dan: That's awesome.
Siri Shakti: Lots to share with you guys. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Very cool. Anything else you want to add before we …
Siri Shakti: I think that's it, just thank you so much for being here and sharing this space with us, it's so awesome. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Right. You'll do it with me at the same time this time?
Siri Shakti: Let's try it.
Dr. Dan: Bye everybody. Do it with me. Be a RockStar in your life, and make the world your stage.
If you love what you hear…
Please “Subscribe” to the Podcast
and leave some comment love on iTunes by using the “Rate and Review”