Are you an empath or sensitive person? Do you feel stressed in crowds or feel like you are affected by others negative energy around you? In this episode, Find out why we need more empaths and sensitive people in this world. Hear our personal stories, struggle and journey to realizing and discovering that what we once felt was a curse was actually a blessing and our superpower! Learn how to master this in your life and use it as your own superpower for good!
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Transcript: (Read Time: 39 Minutes)
Dr. Dan: Hey, fellow RockStars In Life, Dr. Dan here and I've got with me-
Siri Shakti: Siri Shakti.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Today, we are going to be talking about a few things. One is what some call an empath or what's the other word for it?
Siri Shakti: Empathic.
Dr. Dan: Empathic?
Siri Shakti: Yes, Dan. An empathic person.
Dr. Dan: I thought I was going to butcher that and say it completely wrong or being a highly … It's kind of another way of saying highly sensitive person. Now, when we say highly sensitive, we don't mean like they're sensitive to the touch or something or if they're like sensitive like if you make a joke and they get upset. We don't mean that kind of sensitivity and this is a big … Some people call like a spectrum. Like I say, there's different levels of how empathic you are.
Siri Shakti: That's right.
Dr. Dan: How much of an empath you are or how highly sensitive you are and some people differentiate between the two and say, “One is one. The other is the other,” and then there's that spectrum where you can be kind of in the middle of it. But we're going to decipher it. We're going to through it a little bit and give you some solutions if this is something that you're challenged with, if it's something that you've had challenges with in your own life. I know both me and you, I've never really considered myself like, “Hey, I'm an empath.”
I never wore that badge but when I asked you, I said, “What do you think, I'm an empath?” And you said, “Yes.”
Siri Shakti: I'm like, “Oh, yes.”
Dr. Dan: I guess I've been labeled.
Siri Shakti: Yes, you are empathic.
Dr. Dan: Let's talk about that.
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: Let me guess, this is your favorite episode?
Siri Shakti: Oh, my gosh. Again, my other favorite episode. I've said that like many times.
Dr. Dan: This is your 21st favorite episode?
Siri Shakti: Each episode is my favorite.
Dr. Dan: Nice.
Siri Shakti: Yes, and before we get started, I want to say that this is something that can be really beautiful in your life. With anything in our lives, it can be a challenge but also can be a blessing. We'll be getting into all that information in a minute but first, let me kind of give you an idea of what it means to be an empath or-
Dr. Dan: Well, let's use the dictionary explanation or whatever it was. I looked it up and it said, “Empath, plural noun empaths. Chiefly in science fiction, a person with a paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.
Siri Shakti: Whoa, that sounds like really cool and technical.
Dr. Dan: Totally, so I got super powers.
Siri Shakti: Well, I'll put it my way. Let me give you my explanation.
Dr. Dan: Go for it.
Siri Shakti: I'd say that being an empath is when you are really affected by other people's energies. You're sensitive enough that you have the ability to kind of like intuitively feel and perceive others with not only what they're feeling emotionally but also maybe physical sensations that they're having whether it'd be a headache or things like that.
When you're sensitive or empathic, your life is really unconsciously influenced by others, by their desires, their wishes, their feelings, their moods. I know for myself for a long time, I-
Dr. Dan: Even their health too.
Siri Shakti: Oh, absolutely, yes, very much. Same with you, Dan, I never really heard the word empath growing up but I always remember feeling like very sensitive around other people and it wasn't until I was an adult that I was able to really understand what that was, and how I was affected by other people and picked up on not only how they feel but also their intentions.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I had already mastered it how to overcome it and how to prepare for it and what to do when it happens without even knowing what it was.
Siri Shakti: That's so cool.
Dr. Dan: It was kind of like in a survival way. It's like you could either grow and learn how to overcome something and it's like one of those things. I remember, one of our really good friends. He's like an NLP master practitioner, teacher, trainer and he certifies people and all that stuff and he's been doing it for many, many years. I remember he invited me to come speak to his group and I was talking to them about stuff. And I thought I was just like, “Here's what I did to overcome this and here's what I did when it came to marketing and sales, and here's what I did for this.”
He was labeling things like, “What Dan did was this,” and he was giving all his technical terms and I'm like, “Nobody taught me this stuff and I didn't even know you gave it a label or put it on the spectrum of labels,” and I thought that was very interesting.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, you just kind of intuitively knew and figured it out yourself.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Well, it's like learning to walk. It's either you're going to learn to walk or you're just going to stay on the ground forever.
Siri Shakti: Yes. That's interesting that you say that because I know I've told you many times like I want to be more in nature, things like that. I remember growing up, I was a very social person. I love to be around people but then it was kind of like two opposites. Like one side of me wanted to be social butterfly, be around everyone and visit. But then when I needed to detach, I want to be by myself and I'd go in my room. And when I was really little, I'd spend so much time just playing alone and one of the big things for me that would help me balance out is to get outside like in nature as a little girl. I still very much have that need nowadays.
Dr. Dan: You just go out to the woods when you're a little girl on your own?
Siri Shakti: Oh, my God, I would. Yes.
Dr. Dan: Just frolic and-
Siri Shakti: No, no. I'd go out into our backyard or front yard. We lived across the street from a school and had this little hill with grass and I remember I'd roll down the hill just like lay there and stare up at the sky. That was like so therapeutic for me.
Dr. Dan: Well, I know for me I'm trying to think when I was like younger, younger. I used to skateboard a lot and get out. I'd be outside a lot. But always for me as far as I can remember going to the ocean was it for me. At that time, we grew up in Northern California so we'd have to drive like an hour to either … An hour we would go to like, what was that? Shoot, what was that beach called?
Siri Shakti: Stinson?
Dr. Dan: No, no. Growing up, I always like to go to Capitola or Aptos. That's where my parents always took me but that was like an hour and a half away. It was near … It was a little passing in a cruise but there was another one that we would go to. I totally forgot where it is, but I didn't like it as much. It was a little closer but the waves crashed a lot harder and it was usually a lot colder and stuff.
I would just sit there at the ocean. I would just stare into the ocean and it would be meditive. Meditive?
Siri Shakti: Meditative.
Dr. Dan: Meditative, for me.
Siri Shakti: Meditative.
Dr. Dan: Meditative, yeah. It would be just like relaxing and I'd be like just feeling really great. It was before I knew anything about yoga or meditation or anything like that.
Another thing for me was when I learned to snowboard and this is like … I think I was like 19, 20 or something. I can't remember how old I was but we would go up to the snow and then the very first time I was at the top of the hill, it was like the first time I really experienced quiet. It was just … You know like at night when you're in bed and there's no sound at all and then all of the sudden, your ears kind of ring. It was kind of like that but without the ringing and it was really awesome.
I would just sit up there at the top of the mountain before I go down and just kind of relax and think of my future-
Siri Shakti: Oh, my gosh, that sounds so magical.
Dr. Dan: It was very magical.
Siri Shakti: I'm going to go to the top of a snowy mountain and think about my future. Can we do it?
Dr. Dan: Yeah, let's do it.
Siri Shakti: I mean it though
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Now, one thing I would ask you though as you brought this up about you wanting to be a social butterfly, just curious, being a social butterfly with people, was this like in big crowds that you wanted to be or within smaller groups?
Siri Shakti: Actually, it was in smaller groups. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: So, it was in small groups because I'll say that for me, during the summer time, I did my best when I wasn't having to go to school, public school. And I would like either whatever I was doing, skateboarding or for many years, I used to roller skate at The Golden Skate in San Ramon, California back in my hometown and shout out, Golden Skate. I think it's still there.
Siri Shakti: Doing some rexxing?
Dr. Dan: Doing some rexxing, some shoot the ducks, some backward skating. But I used to just like flourish there. People would be like, “Oh, man, you're such a great skater.” And I'd be popular there but it was in small groups. It was just like a few people and stuff. There was a lot of people at the roller rink but it was just fun and everybody was having fun.
But school, man, it was horrible. I had the hardest time in school and I would just sit there and I would talk about this in what episode was that? Episode 8, why homeschooling and other episodes as well and I remember just in school like I would sit there and I couldn't focus. The teacher would talk and I don't remember anything they were saying. I would just sit there and draw because I get in trouble.
I remember, man, was it like 4th Grade or somewhere around there, 4th or 5th Grade maybe. Maybe it was 3rd Grade, maybe it was like 4th or 5th but anyways, I remember I would … No, I was like 3rd Grade, 3rd or 4th Grade, one of those. Anyways, I remember that you did morning classes and stuff. That was back when we only had one teacher and I remember like I would constantly yawn and I never asked anybody else if they always yawned in the morning too when they're in school. But your eyes tear up, so I thought people would see me crying or something. They think I was crying so I would constantly yawn like I couldn't stop.
I remember they had always like in the morning have somebody talk or something or do like a book report or I don't know, something like that where they always had to stand up in class which I would never do because I was too scared. I remember like I would actually make my eyes go cross-eyed because … Not at them, not at anybody but because I thought, and I would look up and down because I thought that would like dry up my eyes or something, so I wouldn't look like I was crying.
Siri Shakti: Oh, my gosh, you're so funny.
Dr. Dan: I remember getting in trouble and the person upfront calling me out and saying, “Mister …” I think his name was Mr. Reed if I remember correctly and they were like, “Daniel,” at that time, they called me Daniel. “Daniel is crossing his eyes making faces at me,” or something like that. It was this little girl.
Siri Shakti: You're like, “I'm just trying to keep my eyes open.”
Dr. Dan: I don't remember what I … I wasn't going to admit that.
Siri Shakti: Of course, yeah.
Dr. Dan: I don't remember what I was saying but that was just like … It's something that I remember that I was just constantly tired and constantly just like be distracted and unfocused and just uncomfortable because I never wanted to speak in front of the class. As you know, we're doing this podcast. People are listening to this. I've done many webinars online with hundreds and thousands of people listening. YouTube videos, spoken at live events with hundreds of people there. Heck, we even spoke at one of Tony Robbins' events with thousands of people there. I think there was like 10,000 people there.
I've always been afraid to speak in crowds, but yet I still am fearful of it but I follow that lead first and let them then appear and I'd just go, “Oh, well. It's like jumping in, you're in there. Be scared while you're in there, but as long as you do that.
Siri Shakti: Well, that's one thing. You were talking about speaking to people and I know being someone that's very sensitive or empathic, the people that I have met and there's many that have these qualities, there is this part of them that really wants to help people in their life, help people in the world.
And oftentimes, they're kind of like silent lawyers, I'd say. Maybe they don't put themselves out there a lot or maybe they do like you're saying like in smaller crowds and things like that but I know for you and I, especially you with your business, you have reached beyond that fear of maybe, your sensitivity comes up that makes you feel fearful to reach out to large groups of people but you've been able to find a way to do that in your life where you can help people and connect with people on a large scale-
Dr. Dan: And still there. It's always going to be there. Well, I can't say always because I haven't reached the end of my life. I guess I'll tell you at the end of my life if it's still there. But it's been there. The only thing is that you don't feel it as much because you've pushed through it so many times that it's like you listen to it less. It doesn't happen less, you just listen to it less. Or maybe it does happen less but knowing that it just gets easier and easier and easier.
It's like anything else in life, it might feel difficult at first but you get better and you get better and you get better and you get better. You just keep doing it.
Siri Shakti: That's right.
Dr. Dan: Sometimes it will feel really strong and you'd be like, “Whoa, this sucks,” and you just keep moving forward. Just remember the times that you did overcome it and you just keep moving forward.
Siri Shakti: I know we didn't touch on this but one thing that I wanted to share with you, guys, is that more and more there are people stepping into this sensitivity in their life. Maybe you didn't even feel it as much before but all of the sudden, it kind of comes up in your life or there's also a lot of children nowadays that are being born that are empathic. The reason that we're seeing in large numbers people having this type of emotional quality and sensitivity is because Planet Earth, there's a lot going on this planet and humans are having to evolve on, very quickly, on a very large scale.
Just naturally by evolution, we to have to change and we've touched on this before. It's not like our physical body necessarily is changing but it's emotionally and what's happening with our brain function and things like that. Really, the way that I like to think about it and the way that I understand it is that people like this are needed in our world, the sensitive people so that we can positively help to change the world and move things in a really good direction.
We have enough negative stuff going on, enough challenge and fear going on so we need, well, what I like to call as light warriors. People that, in a sense, wear their heart on their … What's the expression, wear their heart on their-
Dr. Dan: On their sleeve?
Siri Shakti: On their … Something like that, yeah.
Dr. Dan: I've heard that before.
Siri Shakti: But it was just the first thing that came to mind, yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Well, this world is becoming so, I don't know if I want to say the word overpopulated, but we're getting more and more people in this world. Yeah, it's needed. It's kind of like you get stuck on an elevator and let's say you're in there with 10 people. Out of those 10, there's going to be somebody in there that is somebody that's an empath or something that is caring and they're going to be like, “Oh, well, we're stuck on this elevator. It's been an hour. I've got some water. I've got some peanuts. I've got a bar, a snack bar. Let's all share it.” Opposed to the person that's like hoarding it to themselves and not telling anybody and then reaching back and then just taking a nibble so that nobody else sees.
Siri Shakti: There's a lot of that going on, on this planet right now.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, there's been enough of that. We need more people that are willing to share, willing to help others and you're right. There are more people being born into this and being, I guess, woken up into it as well. Something maybe it's probably been within them but they like drowned it out because they wanted like not so much wanted to but felt they had to fit in and be normal and be like everybody else. You hear the people say that like, “Stop being so sensitive.” Heck, we even say it to our daughters, “Stop being so sensitive.” Well, we joke. We're like teasing each other and stuff like that but she's learning.
But, yeah, we need more people that are that way, that are more sensitive to others and helping others. Also, being sure that whether you are considered an empath or a highly sensitive person, you're not off the hook either. You need to help those people that you can identify as that to help them flourish into becoming what they need to become instead of telling them like, “Stop being so sensitive about life or whatever.”
Again, I'm not talking about like little jokes and stuff like that. What I mean like if there are somebody that has trouble in crowds or has trouble being around a lot of people, or you're trying to force them into being somebody that they're not. Don't do that just because you feel that they should do something but they're not really meant for that, then-
Siri Shakti: Or just because it looks different than we “call the norm”.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Well, for me, I know that as we were actually writing up this, I was trying to think of some ideas, or not some ideas but it's kind of reminiscing in a way too like remembering just how hard it was for me in crowds. I remember like going to night clubs and bars and night clubs with friends and stuff and like, “Let's go party and stuff like that.” They would just like let loose and just have a great time. Man, I would just feel stressed out in there. I'd feel very judged. I'd feel the energy. I'd feel kind of grossed out. I'd feel icky and I just had the hardest time being in those night clubs.
But I tried so hard. I'd even like drink with everybody else. “Oh, I'm going to grab two.” My thing was, and you remember this, I grabbed two long island of iced teas-
Siri Shakti: Chug them?
Dr. Dan: I wouldn't chug them. I'd slurp them because they came with a straw. I'd slurp them up.
Siri Shakti: You drink them pretty fast though.
Dr. Dan: I did. That was my thing. I just drink both really quick so I can have that drunk feeling and if you remember, you were with me. I believe you were with me but I remember telling you about it that when people said like I haven't had a drink in, I don't know what?
Siri Shakti: Oh, my gosh, like 11 years or something like that?
Dr. Dan: More than that. At least like 12, 13, 14-
Siri Shakti: Yeah, something like that.
Dr. Dan: … years, 15 years maybe. I don't know somewhere around there and the last time and people always say like, “Well, why don't you drink?” I remember like I'd tell them the story of like when we were at a night club and I had two long islands and then I even had some more, people were like handing me drinks left and right and I remember feeling very weird. I went to the restroom. I had to go to the restroom. I couldn't keep myself standing straight basically like I was in a drunk body is what it felt like.
But mentally, I was 100% there. I felt like somebody was controlling my body and I had no control over my body but I was sitting there 100% like alert and knew what was going on and I was like, “This sucks.” It was scary. It was scary because I was completely aware of everything around me. I was not drunk in my head one bit and it freaks me out and I said, “You know what? No.” Because why would I want to get drunk so I can walk around like impaired and not be able to stand straight? This makes … Yeah, this is crazy.
I remember telling [inaudible 00:22:18], I remember he told me that at that point he said something like that you would reach this level where that people will tend to get drunk or do drugs or do those kind of substances to get a sneak peek at what was it, their future lives or something like that? It was like another-
Siri Shakti: Or being or experiencing like a higher level of consciousness.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, that's what I meant. A higher level of consciousness, a different level of consciousness or higher level of consciousness. He said it was like a sneak peek like a trailer of your future lives and your future consciousness and stuff like that. He said, “But you would take in yourself, you're now higher than any drug or alcohol or any other substance could take you.”
There was no more sneak peeks from you. It was actually the opposite effect. I was like wow-
Siri Shakti: When you drink or do anything like that, it actually brought you down in a way instead of bringing you … Yeah, yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I was like, “It was really crazy.” I didn't get this explanation for many years after this happened, so I'd always wondered like, “What was that?” That was really interesting to get that. To kind of pull back and to get back to what we're talking about where the trouble with crowds, you've seen this firsthand like when we're having a family get-together or birthday party or anything like that. I will remove myself from the party. I'll be there for let's say like 20 minutes to half an hour, even an hour and talk and socialize and just smile and have a good time. I'm having a good time.
But I reached this point before I get to this point where I know I'll hit this wall.
Siri Shakti: All of the sudden you disappeared.
Dr. Dan: I disappeared. I go, “Hey, I'll be back,” and I'll just disappear and I'll go in my room. I'll go in my office. If we're not at home, I'll walk off and go to the restroom or walk around wherever we are and I'll just kind of just relax a little bit, just kind of be alone or away and sometimes just talking to one person or even two or three or whatever, depending on how many people. If it's a big event with hundreds of people, with thousands of people, then, yeah, two or three people is a welcome change to those hundreds or thousands of people. And I need to do that.
Sometimes, I'll do for like five minutes, 10 minutes, half an hour. It's usually about it. I know that our family get-togethers where my mom and our family members where they would like sometimes people comment like, “Why you like close yourself off from everybody, or what are you doing? Come back out there and socialize.”
Siri Shakti: Your mom would be like, ” You're being rude.”
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Well, she doesn't do that anymore but back then.
Siri Shakti: Back then.
Dr. Dan: I would just say, “I'll be out there in a couple of minutes. I just need a little me time.”
Siri Shakti: Yeah. It's interesting too because for me, I never used to have to do that. But over the past year and a half, I've noticed and I think it's from just all the growing I've done and yoga that I've done, I've reached a higher level of sensitivity where now when I'm in crowds, periodically I have to go outside and I need to go like stand on a grass. It was so cool because I was talking to one of the moms at my daughter's dance studio and we happened to have gone to a Christmas party for my daughter's dance studio and there was a lot of people in a small space.
The next day, her and I were talking and I said, “Oh, my goodness. I started to get a little overwhelmed.” And she's like, “Me, too.” She's like, “I had to go outside, take my shoes off and do some earth thing.” I'm like, oh, my gosh. Someone else talked about earth thing. It was like so cool to hear her say that she had to do that and I felt like I could relate.
Dr. Dan: Totally.
Siri Shakti: That was pretty neat.
Dr. Dan: Nice.
Siri Shakti: Something else came to mind that I know has come up a lot for myself and even yourself. Oftentimes people that are empathic, they are really affected by media, by movies like violence or scary movies, things like that. I know I used to be able to watch scary movies or like fighting movies but not while I get … It's kind of funny because I can still watch things like Game of Thrones and there was a lot of fighting and violence but for some reason, it doesn't affect me the same because it's like fantasy.
Dr. Dan: Because there's dragons.
Siri Shakti: Yes. Anything with dragons makes it better. But if I'm watching like war movies and things like that, I can't do it anymore. You're like, “I'm going to watch this movie without you because I know you can't watch it.”
Dr. Dan: Some movies do affect me more than others. The action movies, the fighting movies and things like that, they don't really bother me to the point to where I would say, “Oh, I can't do that.” Yes, of course, they do affect me but as you know, I get more aggressive if I'm watching them. Then, if you say something to me, I'm like, “Stop.” I'll get like very … Especially if I'm watching it late at night but I'm able to handle that. It's like junk food in a way. Like one, not that I eat a Twinkie but I guess vegan cupcake for us. It's going to maybe make me … Maybe I'll feel like a little acidic afterwards or wire me for a couple of hours but it's a difference between eating one a week or one a month versus like one every half hour, or 10 at once and then you feel really sick.
I do know that like scary movies for me, like horror movies, definitely I cannot really watch it anymore.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, especially like the hunted house ones. No thanks.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. None of those.
Siri Shakti: What was that one that we watched, the Paranormal Activity and in that movie, there's this like, I don't know, dark being or something. They're like opening the cabinets in the middle of the night. We watched that movie a few years back and my husband for a few nights, would open up the cabinets in our kitchen and I'd walk out there in the middle of the night to get like a drink of water or something, I'd be like, “Dad! Like, oh, my God, the cabinets are opened.”
Dr. Dan: Yeah, but I didn't do it as many times as you thought I did because your brother was staying with us and that's something he does without even thinking. He just leaves them open-
Siri Shakti: He does not. Oh, yeah, he did.
Dr. Dan: He does.
Siri Shakti: He did.
Dr. Dan: That would make you so angry but you would complain about it but then after seeing Paranormal Activity, then you started blaming me or whatever. You'd like scream like I didn't do that one but after that, I was like, “Oh, fine. I will open something. You're going to blame me.”
Siri Shakti: Actually, I shouldn't have talked about that movie now. Now, I'm scared. Okay, let's change the subject.
Dr. Dan: Now, you're going to be freaked out. Yeah.
Siri Shakti: Well, before I get into … I have some things that we can use in our daily lives to help balance out this experience of being more sensitive. Do you have anything else you wanted to share before we get into that?
Dr. Dan: No, I think that's a perfect time to talk about that. One thing I would mention though is that we were reading a little bit about like what other people had written about empaths and highly sensitive people. And there was like some things that were very similar, and then there were some things that were kind of different, and they had that spectrum. What's important for you to understand is that it doesn't really matter what you label yourself. Because the truth is just knowing that you're sensitive or highly sensitive, or you're this empath, any of those things, that there are things that are going to help balance you out. And it just matters how much you need to balance yourself out.
Like maybe earth thing, you only need to do it like once a day or once a week. We'd recommend more often. But some people might need to do it like every hour, every … If they're in crowds or if they work somewhere that they're around a lot of people or if they have to drive in traffic. That might be the time that you'll listen in a relaxing music while you're driving, maybe not try and swerve in and out of traffic. It just gave yourself an extra 10 minutes or 5, 10 minutes of drive time so you don't have to stress yourself out trying to drive in a fast lane. Just getting one lane and stay there and listen to some relaxing music, get there 10 minutes later than you normally would but feel centered and feel good. And then maybe you earth before you go into your office if you work in an office.
But the other thing I was going to mention as well is knowing that you are this way and no matter what level you're at, it allows you to prepare to be able to overcome this and make it not affect you as harsh and to get through it easier. It's kind of like knowing that, “Oh, where I'm going, I'm traveling to, there's snow.” Because there's snow, I'm driving up to the mountains and is there snow? Yeah, there's snow. I just watch the weather report. Okay, well great.
Now, I know I need to either put chains on or have a four-wheel drive with snow tires and I need to bring cold clothes. I need to bring a big jacket. I need to bring all the stuff that's necessary for a snow trip, opposed to just without even looking, just packing some shorts and driving your convertible with the top-down that you leave the top because it's one of the soft top/hard tops like we used to have with the Mercedes.
Siri Shakti: Oh, gosh.
Dr. Dan: That's how where you leave the hard top at home and then you just have the soft top and you'd be freezing the whole way up there. It's knowing that you're somewhere around there and that there are things that you can do that can help.
Siri Shakti: Yes. Also, to recognize that being sensitive in this way, it's not a curse or anything. It can be a challenge at times, especially when you're learning about yourself and figuring out what works for you and what doesn't work. But this is actually meant to be a blessing, being able to be intuitive and sensitive. This is really what this world needs. I think with it comes individual gifts that you'll discover within yourself as you begin to grow and things like that.
Dr. Dan: And I don't believe you have to be fully born into it-
Siri Shakti: No, I don't think so either.
Dr. Dan: But you can actually develop. And I think it's within everybody to be this way. Like I said, there's different levels and opening yourself up to it will allow you to those gifts as well and it is a gift. I'm able to use it in my business, in my life, in my relationships with others. In every aspect of my life and it's amazing.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Some of the things that I love to use in my life, this is like I would say the number one important thing that I use, and I use it every morning. And I'm actually going to be implementing it more in my daily life, especially like right before I leave the house and when I get home. There's two different ways of doing this. This is called like … One way of calling it is like a psychic cleansing. You're protecting your body like your energetic field. It's kind of like a silent meditation but you're focusing on something. And what it is, is like for me like I really love to communicate with angels, especially like Archangel Michael who is like the angel of protection.
If that resonates with you, you can call upon your angels or your guides or whatever it is you resonate with to help you to let go of or remove any energies, any feelings that are not yours or that do not serve your highest good. And what I like to do is I imagine them, and I feel the energies or the feelings leaving my body. And I imagine that my angel is like taking them away. And for me, what I like to do is I see my angels bringing that energy to the earth and it turns into like good energy or beautiful energy that helps the earth to grow. I'm really visual, so those kind of things work well for me.
Another way of doing it which is maybe a little more simple is you imagine there is like this vacuum. And it's just sucking out any of those unwanted feelings or energies that aren't yours. Once you feel like they're gone, then you see white light filling those spaces where the energy was taken out, or you could even fill your whole body. Keep practicing this. When I started doing it, I noticed immediately the difference. And I was just telling Dan today, I'm like, “I should do that every time I come home,” because it feels so good.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I like to actually call into the divine, so that's just another way of calling the divine God, whatever you want to call it, the universe, the multiverse. And I just go to the galaxy, basically out of this world, out of this atmosphere into the stars. And I use that white light. The white light is like a cleansing light, however you want to do it, [crosstalk 00:37:14] there's no right or wrong way.
Siri Shakti: Exactly. There's no right or wrong way, and you're going to figure out what works for you but it's the same idea. It's all the same idea. Another one is doing like a chakra cleansing meditation. I could make a guided meditation for that and put it up on our site.
Dr. Dan: Let's do it.
Siri Shakti: And that's basically just balancing and cleansing the different energy centers in your body, and that helps to … Generally just make you feel good and balanced. Another one that I love to do in times where I've been in large crowds is I come home and I get into the shower. And I sit in the shower and let the water just fall on me for like 10 minutes. I like to just experience and feel like just the day just like coming off of me, just like letting it go. That's really therapeutic because water is very healing, so give that a try.
Dr. Dan: I used to love doing that when I was younger, like I would just take like half an hour, hour long showers.
Siri Shakti: Yes, I remember.
Dr. Dan: Because of you, because I didn't know. I wasn't doing yoga or meditation or anything like that. I don't really take showers like in the evening. Unless I really needed it, then I would. When I say really needed, not that I'm smelly but that I felt like, “Man, I do need to wash all this negativity off me.” But I usually don't let myself get to that point.
Because of that, it's not necessary but if I do, yeah, I'm definitely ending with a cold shower at the end. But that is something that's highly needed in the morning for me. If I don't take my morning shower and end with like three minutes cold, well, to be honest, that minute is usually a minute and a half, two minutes. It should be three minutes. I've done three. But if I don't end with that cold, man, my day is different.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, me too.
Dr. Dan: It is way different. It's way more yucky and all that.
Siri Shakti: I hear a lot of people say, “I can't do that.” I'm like, “Don't give me that excuse.”
Dr. Dan: Yeah. But also-
Siri Shakti: Because I couldn't either.
Dr. Dan: But also, I don't deal with … If I had to deal with more negativity in my life, then I would have to do more. But fortunately, very blessed, positioned myself … It wasn't always this way. I had to actually create this without even realizing what I was creating. I had to create this perfect, what do you call it like situation or business or certain type of environment-
Siri Shakti: Yeah, environment.
Dr. Dan: Like the perfect environment incubator for myself to where it's a clean room in my life. Yeah, I still have to deal with stress. I still have to deal with some negativity but man, the amount is like so small. It's like maybe 1% or 2% which is-
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I hadn't even thought about that. That's true because most people have to go into a work environment and you don't know who you're going to come across and you're working with probably some people you can probably think of right now. You're like, “Oh, those people are always negative.”
Dr. Dan: Yeah. We even talked about that in, I think it was like … We talked in a couple of places. I think one of them was episode 13, love your haters. And I think we also talked about it in, let's see … Did we talk about it … I think we talked about episode 10, your words create your reality as well. Heck, I think episode 4 as well was love your family and choose your friends. And we've kind of all talked about it in those that be careful that you don't take on other people's energy, especially people that are negative and avoid those spiritual vampires.
And if you can't avoid those people because maybe you work in a cubicle with them or you work at the office or you have to deal them. They're a client or something like that, just limit the amount of time you need to be around them. Maybe have somebody else like hire somebody or put somebody else in charge of that person or whatever you need to do to limit your communication with them. I know I had one person still negative as heck in my life that we were doing business with, and I had to just like stop talking. I just say, “Hey, let's just stick to email.” And that worked out a lot better. That really helps.
Being able to do something like that and then put somebody else in charge is one thing I did as well, is we have some staff now and I just said, “Hey, I need you to talk to this person,” and whenever you tell me what they need, clean it up for me so I don't hear their negativity.
Siri Shakti: Nice.
Dr. Dan: Like filter, be my filter. That's what you're for. I hired you to be my filter, and we've done that where we even like Facebook comments or YouTube comments or any kind of comment on our help desk, support desk. Any time somebody says something negative, we have it filtered before it reaches us.
Siri Shakti: That's a great idea. Yeah, that's such a really good idea. And there's two more things that I have here that you can use. I said how water is very healing. Well, specifically salt water is really good at pulling out toxins and like any negative vibes going on. Either swimming in the ocean or taking a bath with sea salt. I love that. I do quite a bit of that.
Dr. Dan: Is that the same as Epsom salt into them or would that be different?
Siri Shakti: I don't know. I need to look because I actually have a specific one that's like a sea salt bath.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. We'll make a note of that then and we'll put like a little recipe down there for you below the show notes.
Siri Shakti: And I usually put in some lavender essential, or different types of essential oils too, but lavender is super relaxing especially Friday night. The last one, it's been a few years now I've been using gemstones, like crystals and things like that. If you haven't, I encourage you to do a little bit of reading about it because each stone has a different quality and it's good for different purposes. You can use different gemstones like you can place them in your hands and just sit and relax or you can place some on your body and they absorb the excess energy.
What you do then is after you've used the crystals for a few minutes or whatever, a few hours, however long, to cleanse them. There's a few different things, but my favorites are either to place it in salt water overnight or to leave it outside in the sunlight for the day and then the moonlight for the evening and that helps to recharge your gemstones in.
Dr. Dan: Well, I know like my energy beads that I had, I said that also you can put them in dirt-
Siri Shakti: Yes, that was the other thing.
Dr. Dan: … Like a soil.
Siri Shakti: Yes. You can put them in the earth. Or crystal and stones.
Dr. Dan: Even in a plant soil or something like that, if I remember correctly.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, awesome. Do you have anything else to add before we get to our RockStar Mission?
Dr. Dan: One other little tip I would actually like to add that I'd made a note about. And I thought this might help some people as well that have challenges with like travel. As you know, I hate to travel. I haven't done it in a while now. It's been like over a year since I think I've had to travel anywhere. And I've never had to travel but we chose to because it was good for our business and I probably have to start doing it or it'd be good idea to start doing it a couple more times coming up. But I used to travel quite a bit and I cannot stand doing it. I hated it. It was like the hardest thing for me. I'd get off the airplane and I'd get to my location and would just feel wiped out. I felt like I just was on a ship or something for six months, traveling across the world. And I felt seasick.
Siri Shakti: And it was like three hours.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, it was like an hour and a half flight, or two-hour or three-hour flight to Dallas or something like that. Or the longer ones were like Florida, from California to Florida. It was a seven-hour trip or something like that, plus the hour to drive to LAX so you can get a direct flight which would suck as well.
But one thing that helped for me was preparing. I got better at preparing for it, and some of the things I would do is I would pack as much dry food and bars, and everything that I had with me at home that made it easier for me to have snacks and things like that. I would bring those things. I would bring like any electronics. People joke around and say, they'd call me like RadioShack because I like had every adapter, microphone, everything that you could need even though I didn't need it but it just made me feel more comfortable having it with me. I'd pack that as well.
And then I would also … What I would do is I would hire if it was an event especially. If it was just me and my partner or something like that, then I wouldn't usually but it's like a group of us or anything even like five of us and we're doing like a mastermind or something or an actual event, I would always hire an assistant for those three or four days that we were there. And it wasn't even that much. I think we pay like $100 a day or something for a few hours and we would hire somebody local, and they would actually travel or they would buy all my food, run errands, anything I needed they would go out and get for me which was awesome.
It made it more of a fun trip in a way too because now I didn't have to go get any of those stuff. I didn't have to focus on anything else and the cost of that was in a lot of cases cheaper than even renting a car and then having to deal with renting a car. Because renting a car is a whole another deal because now, you need to go and get it at the airport. Then the worst part, dropping it off because a lot of airports, you drop it off and you have to be like an hour earlier, or half hour earlier, because I forgot which airports it was but I remember you'd have to get on a bus. And the bus would take you to your terminal. It was a long ordeal, so you never know how long it was going to take, so it would just make things a lot easier.
In other words, prepare for it and make it something more fun, so that way, like I was able to order out three times a day if I wanted to. I was like, “Oh, hey, go pick up this. Go pick me up [inaudible 00:48:55] for breakfast on your way in.” Go pick up lunch at this other vegan restaurant that I'd never … Because I would try new places. I'd go on HappyCow, the app and I'd go, “Hey, this looks like a cool place. Can you pick me up this?” And then dinner, “Pick me up this.” It was really fun.
Siri Shakti: And then you weren't as exhausted too because you weren't running all over the place yourself. Like you're saying, you could just focus on what you needed to focus on.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. And bring stuff with you that makes you feel at home. That was another point I was bringing up. I would actually, a lot of times, like we went to Austin, Texas to go meet with a … Now, I call him a friend but at that time I didn't really know him. Ben, my partner, actually introduced us to Jesse who was in one of his masterminds and really great guy. He just moved in this really beautiful house in Austin Hills, or mountains. I don't know what you call them.
He just moved in there, so he had air mattresses and stuff for guests. I ended up ordering a bunch of stuff on the Amazon like a fold out, one of those folding … The ones that we used, the fold-out mattress type things. I bought some of those. I ordered my buckwheat pillows. I ordered a yoga mat, I think. I ordered a couple of other things, so I had everything that made me feel more comfortable there. Of course, all that stuff I left there. I was like, “Here's a gift.”
Siri Shakti: Nice.
Dr. Dan: I made him feel good too. Whenever you leave, you just leave gifts.
Siri Shakti: You remind me of the kids like when they go places. Well, not all of them. Not Caylee. She's getting older, but like they bring their blankies. Did you bring your blanky too?
Dr. Dan: Yeah, my blanky is always intact. Whenever I travel to my partner's place in Texas, I think I ordered like, what was that, the tea thing that heats up the tea.
Siri Shakti: The kettle thing?
Dr. Dan: Yeah, the teakettle thing that heats up, the electric one that heats up itself. I ordered another one of those, had it delivered to his house from Amazon, ordered a bunch of like organic oatmeal from Amazon. I ordered a ton of things and had a yoga mat, a steel mace to workout with when I was at his place. I left all that stuff there which he didn't like because he's like very neat freak. I'd have to pack it away for my next trip so I can use it.
Siri Shakti: That's so funny.
Dr. Dan: That's it. That's all I got before we hit up our RockStar Mission for today, but we want to remind you to go to rockstarinlife.com for links of the resources mentioned in this episode, this episode's transcript, download the free books, training, yoga, meditation, home schooling advice and so much more that we are adding every single week. Go to rockstarinlife.com and join the RockStar In Life Revolution today.
Today's RockStar Mission if you choose to accept, which we hope you will and we believe you will-
Siri Shakti: That's right.
Dr. Dan: If you are one of the sensitive empaths or highly sensitive or just a sensitive person or you're aspiring to be a sensitive person, then we want you to prepare for those times when you know they're coming up whether it'd be an event, whether it'd be your, what is it called, family get-together, or a party or work even, your daily routine. Make a list of three to five things that you can do to make yourself feel stronger and prepare for those. Just like we talked about if you have a snow day, you travel in the mountains with a snow, you would pack for that day. You would prepare it hopefully.
Same thing goes here is we want you to prepare for it, so three to five things to make yourself feel stronger. That could be yoga. It could be meditation. It could be earth thing. It could be hiring help like we talked about, sitting in your car and listening to something positive, whether it'd be music or our podcast, and audio book, relaxing music, paint, draw, watch a funny movie. Do something you love to do that makes you feel good and get you into the right state and combine these things. Change it up, make it a menu, a fun stuff and good stuff for you.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. And try doing some of these things when you come home, like let's say you've had a particularly stressful time or you were in a large crowd or at a big event, try some of these things when you get home and see the difference between how you feel when you first walk into the door, or walk into the door … Walk through the door.
Dr. Dan: After you put some ice on your head.
Siri Shakti: After you get home, walk through the door, compare to how you feel after you do those things.
Dr. Dan: If you're aspiring to become sensitive and to do a lot of these things, whether you are or aren't, I was also going to mention that if you know someone, which I'm sure you do, that has been struggling with this, that they are a sensitive person, and whether they've learned to master it or they're going through it and they're starting to understand it or they don't, maybe they're having trouble with it. Maybe their drugging themselves, taking medication or drinking or doing illegal drugs or things like that.
It could be a loved one, your significant other, your own child, your own kid, a parent, a family member or a friend. Share this episode with them. Also give them your support. Help them come up with some ideas and know that they're not alone and that there's nothing wrong with them. And they don't need to try and fit in or fix themselves, that they just need to understand that they are sensitive. They are an empath or highly sensitive or whatever name or level you want to give yourself and that there is a way through it and the only way through it is to learn to master it which is doing these things that we're talking about.
Siri Shakti: That's right. That's awesome.
Dr. Dan: Anything else you want to add?
Siri Shakti: No, that's it.
Dr. Dan: Perfect.
Siri Shakti: Well, guys, this has been so awesome. And don't forget to get out there and be a RockStar in your life.
Dr. Dan: And make the world your stage.
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