Be UnMotivated – Why Motivation Doesn’t Work!

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Be UnMotivated? Why Motivation and Inspiration Alone Won't Work

In today's episode, Dr. Dan talks about how inspiration and motivation are just tools that won't work on their own. Just like any other tool, you must have the right one for the job. Some tools are better suited for different jobs. You wouldn't use a wrench to hammer in a nail. You could make it work with a lot of extra unnecessary effort but you would be better off using a hammer. Motivation and inspiration are great for certain situations but you MUST use this one tool instead…

Dr Dan & Tony also explain why hustle and grind are a recipe for failure and compare it to trying to win a race in a broken sports car or running a marathon on your hands. In order to have any lasting results and success, you must use what they teach you in this episode if you want to finally break free from failure and be the RockStar in life you were born to be!

You will hear the story of how Dr Dan went from fat just a few short months ago, to the leanest and fittest he has been in over 20 years and how you can use the same easy strategy.

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[Time Stamps]

00:00 – Intro

01:04 – Motivation Sucks

01:14 – Motivation Is Just a Tool You Cant Rely On

01:25 – If You Wait For Motivation or Inspiration You Will Fail A lot

01:48 – You Don't Need To Hustle & Grind 24/7

02:04 – Motivation is Like Taking Vitamins

02:51 – What You Need To Do Instead of Relying on Motivation

03:32 – It Was Throbbing & Kept Me Up

04:56 – New ASM Yawning Channel?

05:07 – We Had Good Excuses To Not Do It

05:35 – You Only have So Many Tomorrows Left

07:13 – Why Dr Dan Workout

07:51 – Do What You Said You Would Do!

09:19 – Accountability Partners Help

09:50 – How Introverts Can Use This

10:04 – Accountability Partners

10:20 – Be Your Own Accountability Partner

11:45 – Regrets On The Death Bed

11:56 – Brendon Burchard Story of Regrets

12:29 – What Tony Doesn't Want To Regret

14:05 – How Dr Dan Made Himself a So-Called Motivated Person

15:12 – Simple Steps You Can Do Right Now

16:03 – Shoot For The Stars and Not The Fence!

17:57 – Make Micro Adjustments When Needed

18:15 – Motivation Is Like a Broken Lambo

18:39 – Rather Race in a VW Bug or Lambo?

20:09 – Dr Dan HoHo Fountain of Blood Story

21:44 – Use This To Write Your First Book

22:03 – D & F Student To Best Selling Author

23:21 – Always Listen To The Multiverse

24:48 – How To Use This To Get In The Best Shape of Your Life

25:17 – Big Dan vs Fat Dan

25:43 – Good Excuse is Still Just An Excuse

26:39 – The Most Important Thing To Do To Lose Fat

27:59 – If You Stop Doing This You Will Get fat Again

29:34 – What App To Use To Eliminate Fat

31:56 – Tony Wants To Marry Dr Dan?

35:26 – Why Most People Get Fat Again

36:20 – Why Some Are Skinny Fat

39:47 – Tony Breaks Down How You Might Just Be Confused

41:45 – Motivation Inspiration Is All The Same Tool

42:24 – Tony Confuses Dr Dan with Confusion

43:04 – How Dr Dan Couldnt Remember What He Read In School

45:02 – Figure Out What Works For Your Type

46:04 – Your RockStar Mission For Today

Transcript: (Read Time: 42 minutes)

Dr. Dan
started burning and it just hurt. Put some ice on it, but it was throbbing all night. Hey fellow RockStar Dr. Dan here and in today's episode, we're going to be going over why motivation sucks, and why you should not be motivated in your life. Which probably sounds pretty weird, but trust me, stick with me and you'll find out why. But before we do, let's roll that intro.

Siri Shakti
Welcome to the RockStar In Life Podcast, where you learn the secrets to unleashing your inner RockStar. So you can make the world your stage!

Dr. Dan
Alright, before we get into it, Tony, are you there?

Tony
Yes, Dan, what's happening fellow RockStars. How's it going?

Dr. Dan
Love it. Love it. We are really, really juiced for today's episode. Because this is something again that I've lived my life. This is something that I do every single day. And I'm actually doing it today. I'm doing it right now. And I'm going to kind of explain what it is and why motivation sucks. So like I said, Just bear with me. Motivation sucks. It doesn't mean that it doesn't have its place. It is a tool. And it is a great tool to be used. But it's not something that you're going to utilize and you can rely on because if you do, you're going to fail a lot. And for some people, they don't ever achieve what they want to achieve, you know, to to be able to fulfill their purpose, their mission, you know what it is they want to do in their life, their projects, you know, their dreams, their goals, whatever you want to call them. There, they're not able to fulfill those because they're trying to rely on motivation because we've all been taught, you need to be motivated. You need to be a go getter. You need to hustle. You need to hustle and grind. Tony, have you heard that before?

Tony
Yeah, hustle, grind, grind hustle? Yeah, yeah, so OBS OBS in my opinion.

Dr. Dan
Again, it is a tool it is it's like it's part of your vitamins, right, you do need to take them but you can't rely. You can't take a multivitamin and go now I don't need to eat any any vegetables or any food. Other than you know, like I can have chocolate cake and and, and, and soda. And that's all I'm going to eat every single day I'm gonna have Twinkies and ho hos and deep fried, you know, like fries, I'm going to live off of that I'm gonna live off cheeseburgers only know that that's not how it works. Motivation, again, like I said, is just a tool. But on its own, it is not going to work. If you want to accomplish your dreams, your mission, your purpose, all the things you want to do. So without withholding any more, it's it's very, very simple. What it requires is you to be committed, it is commitment that actually helps you and we'll drive you through to those points to where you're tired. Because again, you know, if you're sitting there and you're tired one day, and you're like, oh man, today, I don't feel like doing it, or today I'm sick, or I'm just not feeling 100% or I'm just I don't I don't know, I'm feeling kind of down or somebody was mean to me. So I'm going to take the day off, I'm not going to do you know, I'm not going to work on my on my dream on my passion on what it is that I want to accomplish. I'm just going to take the day off. And to give you a great example. And it actually it's funny, it comes up perfectly and Tony will share his as well. But for me today, actually last night at some point during the day or night, I don't know if I did it work out or if I did it when I jumped on the hot tub last night with my son or if I maybe tripped or something or you know, stubbed my toe going up and down the stairs because we have like the circular staircase that that's like these hard leg tile type things and, and Spanish style and every now and then I catch an edge and I'm like, Oh, you know kind of hurt my foot on it a little bit or about to happen in the shower. So who knows how it happened, but I pulled something in my toe I sprained it or I pulled something in there. And it's it affected last night also my foot started burning and my toes started burning and it just hurt. And it started swelling up. I tried stretching it and I put some ice on it but it was throbbing all night. So I was like man, how am I going to sleep like this because even just like just moving in on accident or turning in bed, which I am a side sleeper and I flipped from left to right constantly. And and every time I did it just like was so painful that it was keeping me up. So I'm like man, so it was like 334 in the morning by the time I finally fell asleep and I woke up I think about nine 30 today did my yoga but I couldn't go on a walk with my family like I usually do every morning. But again I was in pain. I'm tired. I've been yawning I was making Tony. Yawn Just a sec. A couple couple minutes ago, we were joking saying this ASM for yawning state channel today. And so I had I had every excuse every good excuse for most people's standards to not do today's episode I could have just as easily been like, Tony, man, I'm really tired today I didn't sleep very well and my foots throbbing under the desk right now. I'm like, this sucks. So can we just do it tomorrow or the next day when I'm feeling better. And I mean, how many of you have done things like that, where you're just like, Oh, I'm just not feeling 100%. So today, I'm not going to do it. Now, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with taking a break, taking, you know, a day or two to recover from something. But when you've got commitments, when you've got things that you want to accomplish in your life, you can only put it off so many times, there's only so many tomorrows that you can put them off, if you're like, oh, tomorrow, I'm gonna do the next day, the next day, there are only so many tomorrows in your life that you can keep putting things off. So you've got to keep pushing forward every single day to accomplish things you want to do. And that's not motivation. That's not motivation at all, that is commitment. So I am committed to being here and doing this episode today with you all so that way, I can reach more people and help you through your own struggles and your own challenges in life. And this helps me as well too. It fills me up and makes me feel awesome inside, being able to share with you all the things that I've you know, done in my life that you can, you can use all the tools that I've used in my life to get myself where I am today. And to you know, make myself a rock star and life and to help you do that as well. So, not to mention, also, I'm supposed to be working out today. And I could just as easily make an excuse to be like, Oh, my foots really hurting. So I'm not going to work out. So sure, I'm not going to train legs, I'm not going to squat or do any kind of calf exercises or anything like that, um, you know, I'm going to do some upper body, right, I'm going to end up doing probably back and some traps and some arms. And I'm going to do most of it sitting now and probably are lying down because I'm going to take the pressure off my foot. But it's all about being committed. Because I am committed to my health, I'm committed to, to me to my goal of wanting to be in the best shape of my life in my late 40s. Right, I'm getting close to 50. And I want to be I want to be freaking awesome. I want to live a long, healthy life look good naked. And I want to have an awesome quality of life. So I can spend time with my wife and my beautiful three kids and just have an awesome time and be that rock star in life. How about you, Tony? Oh, yeah,

Tony
definitely. I hear you on that one. Literally, today, we're talking about we don't like to dwell on the on the bad stuff, the negatives around here. But yet today I am. I am feeling very rundown, my my batteries are empty. Or at least that's what I've been telling myself all day going in a bit of a funk. But you know, when when Dan sent me the the topic for today, I was like, Yes, because you got to stay committed, you got to do what you said you would, which is why I've worn this T shirt because it's just a reminder, a visual reminder that, hey, I said I'm going to do this thing, I'm committed to doing it. And long after the motivation has gone long after inspiration is gone, then that is when that is when you need to just just stick with that commitment that that that keeping the flow going the motor, the what's the word even looking for here, the momentum going. And that's why we do this on the same day every week. And it really helps. So I'll throw this in now, it really helps to have somebody else accountable to because the results come from from doing the things that you said you would do even like long after people have stopped watching. And that's the thing like when when people it's all good to kind of be down the gym when you know your friends are going to be there but but when your friends aren't going to be there. He still gonna go. And that's why having Dan on this show, and inviting me to join him in it makes so much sense because it keeps me committed to showing up for Dan, but also keeps Dan committed to showing up for me. And in turn, both of us showing up for you guys at home.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, exactly. And we've got great excuses of why, you know, we shouldn't do some things right? Like why we should like sit back and, and and and not do this show and episodes and things like that when we don't feel like it. I mean, dude, I'm an introvert. Right? Like Like, by all accounts, I should be just like sitting back in my cave and not talking to anybody or not doing anything right. So It's really easy for me to make excuses. And and I love what you just brought up is that you need, you know, accountability, right? And it helps to have a partner, it helps to have somebody to talk to I can talk to my wife, I can talk to Tony, I can talk to our RockStar team, I have people that can help hold me accountable. But that's where the commitment comes in, where you hold yourself accountable. And that's one of the reasons why when we give you the rock star missions, when we give you you know, the the assignments, you know, after the end of every episode, where we say, how can you use this in your life, we tell you to write something down to write in your journal on a page on a piece of paper on your phone or somewhere that you can see it over and over again, because that is the commitment. And that is also holding yourself accountable. You're your own accountability partner. How cool is that, that you don't have to rely on anybody else? You know, like, it'd be easy for me to say, oh, today, I don't feel like doing this because my wife is being negative or wanted somebody on my team is being negative, you know, like, So because of that, I'm not going to do it, right? No, I'm going to hold myself accountable, I'm going to make myself be committed and have that commitment to fulfill the the all the things that I want to accomplish in my life, because I have nobody to blame but myself, if I don't accomplish those things, and I don't even want to be there. I don't even want to imagine what that would be like, if I didn't accomplish the things that I want to accomplish, because that would be a miserable, miserable life. And that would really suck. How would you feel, Tony, if you if you didn't do the things that you wanted to do? accomplish face?

Tony
Yeah. See, that's the thing. They they say, people when when they're on their deathbed, when they're looking back, you know, it's always the regrets of what they didn't do not the things that they did do. And for me, Brendon, Brendon Burchard example of when he had his big accident that kind of got him on the path of being a person who helps other people he said that went through His head was did I live? Did I love? And did I matter? And he interviewed loads of other people? And they said, Yeah, at the end of life, conversations they have in their professions. That is the three most those are the three most common things people are saying is did I live? Did I love? Did I matter? So yeah, I don't want to be, I don't want to be getting to the end of my life with regrets. I also don't want to get to the end of this quarter. with regrets. I set some things I want to do this quarter. And, and that that for me is just as important. Because this quarter, and the other three quarters of this year, make this year and this year, makes this decade and this decade makes, you know, all the decades make the rest of my life. So yeah, definitely, I think avoiding regret is great. And it gives you that awareness of what's going on. But also it's worth thinking about regret isn't only something that happens at the very, very end of your life, it can, it can happen sooner, you know, you may have an opportunity come up that you miss out on because you haven't saved that money. Or you may have family photos taken and you you look at them and you feel bad because you didn't lose that weight because you ate all those Twinkies, or many other things that you might regret. But then on the flip side, just being consistent with doing the things, hey, you may end up looking at those Family Photos going Damn, I look good. And I don't feel like I starve myself or whatever or somebody comes along with an investment opportunity or something or you want to buy one of these NF T's that are all the rage at the minute and you can just buy it because you've been saving consistently automatically in the background or whatever it is that you're doing to get those those goals those results that you sat down to define what they were in the first place.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, no, I love that. And it's just it's really funny because it I don't know why it's not like you said anything to really spark it but, but as far as like it just reminded me of something where I'd had people probably in 2006 I think was about 2006 when I was doing a lot of traveling and I was part of the Platinum partnership with Tony Robbins and I had a lot of people just coming up to me all the time and they were just saying like, how is it that you're such a people person? How is it that you're so motivated and that you you know, you're seem like you've got all all together and you're like doing all these different projects and and living your mission and your purpose right that's why they call me the rock star. And and it's funny because they don't they didn't know they didn't see me before. I made that decision before I fully committed to doing these things and doing them every single day a little bit every single day. Because if you would have saw that person You would have imagined, oh, it's not possible, like it's night and day looking at who I am today to who I was prior to that. But I had to make that decision, I had to make the decision to say, Look, I'm going to be committed to my success, I'm going to do a little bit every single day, no matter how I feel, you know, or it doesn't have to be every every day, it can be every other day. It can be I mean, it's whatever you set it to be set it out to be. So if you commit again, if you commit to saying, Look, I'm going to do it every day, do it every day, if you say I'm going to commit to doing at least 10 minutes every day, do it at least 10 minutes every day, I don't recommend committing to doing something and saying I'm gonna do eight hours a day to work on my mission, because then you're setting yourself up, you're, you're creating this, this really high intensity, that might be difficult for you to continue doing. And then you will beat yourself up for not accomplishing what you had said that you're going to do. So in other words, it's better to shoot for the stars and land on the moon, than it is to shoot for the moon and land on the fence. Like you want to you want to over you want to like over calculate, like, Okay, look, I'm gonna just commit to doing 10 minutes a day, or I'm gonna commit to doing half an hour a day, right or an hour, I don't know what it is. So if you were saying like, originally, I wanted to do two hours or five hours a day working on these projects, will then commit an hour or half an hour, something that you can easily accomplish every day, no matter how you feel, even if you feel like crap. So if you said I'm going to do 30 minutes every single day, that does not mean you have to stop at 30 minutes, because there's going to be times where you're like, Oh my god, I feel like I'm on fire. I'm, I got this role going. This is awesome. I just like everything is coming through me. It's like this firehose of just ideas and, and, and all the stuff that I'm putting together, and I'm just, you're just writing crazy, crazy, crazy. And all of a sudden, it's like eight hours later and you're still doing it, well, then that's great. But you committed doing it at least 30 minutes. So maybe next week or the week after you are extremely tired, you know, you're hurt your toe, like I did your foot and it's throbbing, and you're like, Okay, I'm just gonna do 30 minutes, and you do 30 or 40 minutes or whatever. But now you can celebrate that win because you didn't make it this like huge like thing that you have to really struggle to accomplish every day. And again, you can do this every day. Or you can say, Look, I'm gonna commit to doing it three times a week, or I'm gonna commit to working it on one day, a week, whatever it is, and it doesn't mean you have to just stick to one day, you can still do every day, you can still do three days a week, that's just your minimum that you have to accomplish in order to be successful at what your commitment was, right. So again, I highly recommend that you start with little little increments where you're like, I'm going to do 30 minutes, or I'm going to do an hour depending on what it is you want to accomplish. If it takes more than it takes more. But make those little micro commitments, so that way you can you can actually fulfill them. And you can always adjust it later. So if you do this for let's say the next two, three weeks, and you find out that it's easy to surpass that then go ahead and add more say, I'm going to do more. I mean, this is, you know, not not relying on motivation to get you there. Those that rely on motivation. It's kind of like driving a Lamborghini and being in and race and you're driving in a Lamborghini to rate like, what would you say? Tony, if you had a Lamborghini racing, and you had a really slow car like a VW bug, like an old VW bug? Which one would you rather racing? Well, would you rather be it?

Tony
I would much rather race in the Lambo. 100% Perfect.

Dr. Dan
Perfect, except I forgot to tell you that the Lamborghini only will drive in first gear the other gears are broken.

Tony
says yeah, broke Lambo. Okay, yeah, well, yeah, it's obviously the the the VW Beetle, the lovebug would be the obvious choice. Yeah.

Dr. Dan
Yeah. So you would you would imagine, you would imagine that the Lamborghini is going to be faster. But yeah, people that rely on motivation, they're driving, they're racing a race, any Lamborghini going in first gear the whole time, they're gonna get their doors blown off, unless they're only going like three feet, or 10, or more than three feet. But still, I don't know how, how far Lamborghini Lamborghini can go in first gear. But if it's like a mile, that bug is still gonna beat it because that Lamborghini is gonna top out at some point and that bugs gonna be able to hit 50 6070 8090 miles an hour that Lamborghini is not, I don't even know what it'll top out, but it ain't gonna be 80 miles an hour. So that's gonna really suck right? Or if you like running a marathon, right if you're running a marathon If you're running a marathon, but you have to do it on your hands, so you have to walk on your hands. I don't know about you, Tony, but I cannot walk on my hands. Especially now, when I was younger. I used to do those hoes on a skateboard, you know where you're on your hands. And you got to skateboard on your feet.

Tony
Man I

Dr. Dan
cry actually had actually smashed I don't know if you can see that. But actually smashed my finger and got it, got it, got it split open the skateboard fell straight down off my feet, crushed my hands on the ground. So you know, almost six feet came crashing down headfirst into two fingers. And it was gushing blood. And I was telling my son this story because we were talking about like, like how they get in pain and they're just like immobilized, like, ah, I skinned my knee. You know, like, I gotta scratch. I can't walk pick me up. And I'm like, you know, when I was your age, I was doing a hoe skateboard fell down, crushed my fingers. God, what blood was gushing. It was the first time I've ever seen water fountain, blood. And I was actually a couple blocks down from my parents restaurant. They were at work. And I had to skateboard because we didn't have cell phones. So I skateboarded from where I was, all the way down the street across the street to their work to let my dad know, hey, my hands. gushing blood. Can you take me to the hospital? So it's like, man, my kids would have just died. They would have just rolled over a bit like I did.

Tony
That's it. It's been a good life.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, too soft. Exactly.

Tony
Kids today. Exactly.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, well, he's another example how I use I'll give, I'll give like maybe one or two more examples. But another, you know, because again, there's gonna be other things that you want to accomplish. Maybe it's not business. Maybe you want to write a book, right? You know, which I've written to write. So I had every excuse to not write a book, every excuse you could imagine number one, I got D's and F's in school, I got d d minuses and F's in in English. I didn't know how to properly put together like sentences, and I couldn't spell every single word. And, and you know, and I didn't know where to put all my punctuation and, and even the way I talked like it was a proper grammar, right, like, according to according to my teachers. So I was told I was a dumb dumb, I was told there was something wrong with me. I was told I had ADHD, I was told that, that I had learning disabilities, I was told that I just wasn't smart. And that basically, I'd probably become a janitor. And that would be my job. And there's nothing wrong with janitors. Just that wasn't what I wanted to do. And that's not what I wanted to hear. But I had every excuse to not ever even think that I was capable, or that I should even attempt to write a book or that I deserved to write a book, right? Or that I could accomplish that. But what did I do? I decided because the multiverse said, Hey, you need to write a book because people were constantly coming to me and saying, hey, write a book, write a book, write a book, write a book. And I was like, okay, multiverse I've heard this, like four or five, six times in a row. Now within the same month, I guess I need to write a book, right? You always want to listen to that multiverse. So what did i do is i we've already talked about this in past episodes, where I've modeled and I hired a mentor, and they taught me how to do it. But I made the commitment to doing it. And every day, there wasn't, like, most days, I didn't even want to do it. But I committed to spending half an hour an hour every single day to get me to where my goal is. And now I need to do that again. Because it's time I have to go back and make some edits to the book because I've added another kid now. So I've got another kids that are written the book is a couple things that I want to update in my RockStar book, there's, you know, one of the lessons in there, I definitely need to tweak because things have changed. And I don't really recommend, you know, one of the things that I that I taught in there fully, like there's a little caveat to that. So I need to go back and do that again. But I've been putting it off for like, two years to go back and edit because it was so much. It was it was like giving birth that I didn't want to go shove a baby back in me and then push that baby back out. Right. I was like, I don't want to go through that same process again with the same kid I already gave birth to. So I've been putting it off. Yeah, but I am Yeah, insert image and video now. Oh, no. So I need to make commitment again to do that. And that's what I'm doing. And I'm doing it here live that it's going to be done. And I'm going to commit every single day to doing a little bit or at least a couple times a week to get that done. So that way it can be done. Another example would be I love Tony or you were just talking about you know, getting in shape and losing weight, right? Yep, yeah. So for me Um, what was it? Like? I mean, you heard this before I was talking about this a several times, but maybe I didn't give you all the details. But a couple was like 2018, I probably was at my heaviest. Or should I say my fattest because I wasn't at my heaviest. When I was at my heaviest. I was like, over 260, maybe 263, maybe 265. But I was I was, uh, I was bodybuilding.

Dr. Dan
Right. So I was bodybuilding back then, and I was full of muscle. And, and, you know, just a couple years ago, I was 248 pounds. But I wasn't full of muscle. I had some muscle, but I was mostly full of fat. And I kind of let myself go, I got busy with my projects with my family and every other great excuse that is valid, right? Like, I could use those excuses. But you know what, I'd still be fat, overweight, unhealthy because of that. Even though I was relatively healthy, like I went to the doctors, my blood pressure was fine. You know, I mean, we eat plant based vegan diet, we're take our vitamins, and we're, you know, healthy when it comes to that we go on walks, but I was carrying a lot of fat at 248, my stomach was sticking out. I had flab. I was not happy, right. I just, I was tired. I was depressed. And I was like, this sucks. But I just would start and stop, start and stop. Because I was waiting for motivation. I was using motivation. So even myself a couple years ago, I still have to tap into these just like I talked about the book, just like I talked about, you know, like I'm talking about right now with exercising. So I had to commit, I said, Look, I got to do this. So I'm going to be committed every single day to counting my calories. So I counted my calories, I don't just watch what I eat. When you watch what you eat, that ain't gonna help, right? Because it is watching and going your mouth and you're eating it. If you're not counting your calories, I'm sorry, it's gonna come back, you have to count your calories. Unless you've got like great genetics, and you won't gain fat no matter what it's it's a little bit different, right. But for me, I had to count my calories. So I went from 248. And just a couple months, I went down as low as I was averaging about one to three pounds every single week, eliminating one to three pounds of fat every single week. Some weeks, it would be like one some weeks would be half a pound. And some weeks would be three pounds of fat. Even some weeks were four pounds of fat, but typically, one to three, on average, somewhere between there. And I got down to all weigh 188 pounds. And people were like taking double takes gone. Whoa, you look like a whole different person. Like I didn't recognize you laying on the I was going for our chiropractor, chiropractic appointment. And somebody came in and they're like, I don't even recognize you laying down there. She came in and she was like, Oh, hey, Siri, Shakti Where's your husband? And she's like, Oh, he's right there now like, Whoa, I didn't even notice that was that was him because I had, you know, eliminated so much body fat I got rid of so much. But you know what, I wasn't happy I wanted to, I wanted to actually gain some muscle. So I was like, Okay, I kind of know what I'm doing now. So I'm not going to count my calories. Instead, I'm going to go ahead and I'm just going to like, watch what I eat, thinking I can trick myself into that I'm just going to be a little careful. And I'm going to work out more and I'm going to gain some muscle well, boom, ended up gaining more fat got up to 223 to 23 pounds. And I was like, oh man, it happened again, right? So I'm like, okay, I want to lean down. I don't want to be fat with muscle, I want to be muscle with muscle, right? I don't want to have that much body fat. I want to be able to take off my shirt and be happy to have my six pack or eight pack abs, right? stick it out. So that's what I'm working on now. And after a couple weeks, couple months, consistently again, one to three pounds every single week coming out because I'm coming off because I am counting my calories. And now as of last week, I'll weigh myself on Friday again, I was down to 202 pounds. But the cool thing is is I'm leaner. So 202 pounds right now, I am leaner than I have been in 20 plus years. So I'm like, Whoa, this is awesome. So I'm going to continue counting my calories. And I'm going to get leaner and leaner and leaner and see where I end up and then at that point, maybe I'll go back to gaining some muscle but I'm not going to gain fat or very little because that is my goal. That is my commitment. That's what I'm doing every single day but it is tough and it is very difficult to count your calories I have to use an app. I use my fitness pal and I I look at it every single day and I add my breakfast, lunch, dinner snack, my additional two meals. So I am constantly tracking every single thing I do and then my wife makes dinner with my kids are actually helping out now. And and every single day they're asking Oh hey, make sure you update your calorie so I know how much to give you for Dinner. And I actually pre set my shake, I have an evening shake, it's kind of like a dessert that I have before bed, or not before bed, but you know, a couple hours before like after dinner. And, and I always put that in first. So that way I know exactly how much I can have for dinner. And I don't have to like, you know, like change what I'm gonna have later. So because it's going to be the same shake every single night. And, and so I put that in there and we count the calories. And at first my wife was like, this sucks, it's so difficult, I'm so confused, it's so hard to calculate exactly how much you need. But after she got committed, she made a commitment to actually learn how to use the app, which didn't even take that long, it took a few days for to get used to what she committed to doing it. And now she loves it. And she you know, she does it for herself. She does it for one of my one of my daughters and my other daughter, she actually counts her own calories. And then my wife uses herself as well. So it's again, it is commitment, but it'd be just as easy for us to say, Oh, this is too difficult. I don't feel like doing it today, right? But then we're gonna get mediocre results, we're not going to be able to accomplish the things that we want to accomplish. And that's what you got to do for yourself, too. You have to make that commitment. You have to take steps every single day to get there, you have to make that commitment to doing these little micro commitments of I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to do 20 minutes or 30 minutes every single day or three times a week, or whatever you choose it to be and you can adjust but you have to do it. It is so important if you want to accomplish what you want to accomplish in life. When you agree, Tony.

Tony
I would only agree 100%. Yeah, definitely. The only 100% Yes, that's all I can all I can agree. I was thinking then, while you were talking about that, because I'm on the weight loss, train myself weight elimination rather train myself, because in 21 days, we're actually 20 days now we fly to Santorini to get married not not not me and Dan, by the way, not not we fly myself on my

Dr. Dan
feet are already married

Tony
yet. Gemma and I are flying to Santorini with you know friends and family to get married. And one thing that popped up in my mind while Dan was talking there was often people think they have to stick with something forever. And for me, I committed by working with a weight loss coach or weight elimination coach, a fitness coach to gradually super gradually reduce my weight over quite a period of time. In fact, since January, and we're right now we're in September. And the plan was, I said to him, listen, I want to effortlessly get down to a 32 inch waist, which is kind of their kind of their I was nearly 40 inch waist, but I said effortlessly. So we got there, I was still having beer and you know, not every day, but occasionally having beers, pizza or my favorite thing, you know, chocolate and all the bad stuff. I was occasionally having those. And by occasionally, I don't mean like once in a blue moon. I mean, like it was a weekly thing. And, and that was fine. I still I still you know eliminated that extra weight. And but now that we're down to the to the 21 days before things have slowed, I think my body's just got used to it. I've got more relaxed, I stopped tracking as well. In My Fitness Pal, I was eyeballing stuff going I that's about right. So for the next 20 days, I've committed to being ultra efficient, and stick to the plan, drink three liters of water minimum every day, and move everyday sweat every day. So for this last 20 days, I'm actually going to make a bit of an effort to get the results that I want. Because when I look at those photos from the wedding, I want to go down Look at that. And the thing is, when I look in the mirror afterwards, I want to go down look at that because it's much easier to to keep it off. But here's the the release for me anyway, once I put in that big effort. But the thing I wanted to kind of drive home there was Don't worry about, oh, I've got to commit to this for the rest of my life. Maybe you only want to commit to something for 20 days like I'm doing for this for this thing. I had planned on doing it a bit longer, but I just messed around and I lost a week or so. so naughty me. But back to that quote I used last week in last week's episode was Earl Nightingale never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway and And I think that that works exactly the same. So whether you go with a really short term commitment that maybe you're going to extend, or change or adapt or something, the time is gonna pass anyway. So what's, what's the big deal? I just say just just do it anyway, wouldn't, wouldn't you agree, then?

Dr. Dan
Yeah, whatever, whatever it takes, again, everybody is different, everybody's gonna want to accomplish something different when it comes to, you know, eliminating body fat and getting healthy and getting fit. Yeah, when you get your, your body fat, so low, and you make your turn your body into this into this machine, by gaining muscle and losing body fat, then your metabolism does change, it speeds up, and you can more efficiently burn off a lot of calories. So it's harder to start getting fat again. So you can like you know, stop counting calories. For me, I don't think I will stop counting calories, just because there's freedom even though it sounds the opposite. But there's freedom in counting your calories. Because if you do that, you have so much more room to actually eat without overeating. And it's pretty awesome. Like for my wife and my daughter, they both were under eating before they started counting the calories. They were like, Whoa, I was not eating enough calories. They're like whoa, for them to lose body fat. And that's why their body because people will like eat too few calories and be like, why aren't I getting any leaner? Why am I getting fatter? Or why am I staying the same? It's because your body is in this emergency mode of I'm going to hold on to all the stored body fat because you're not giving me enough calories. So I'm going to feed off of your muscle instead. Because muscle requires more calories to maintain than fat does. So if you're not giving your body enough calories, what is it going to do? It's going to use what's more expensive to it. And the muscle is more expensive to it's just like if you give somebody like, like you say, Look, I'm going to give you a an allowance of $10 a day to eat on. Do you think they're gonna go get the healthiest organic foods to eat? No, they're gonna have to go to McDonald's and go get the dollar menu and eat like that. Because that's all they can afford to eat. To make that spread out and work right versus going to Whole Foods and buy one potato for 10 bucks. Right? So

Tony
10 $10 for a potato To be fair, that's probably about right vole foods. We don't have Whole Foods here in the UK. But yeah, it's I've heard lots of good things about Whole Foods, but you need to take out a mortgage if if you don't normally shop there.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, there's, there's this running joke where people would call it not Whole Foods, but whole paycheck, because you go there and you spend your whole paycheck there. And there's actually an episode on The Simpsons. It was hilarious that clip. So they went through, they decided to eat like organic foods, and they get to the checkout line and they put all their food, all their healthy foods and vegetables on the conveyor belt, all the organic stuff. And by the time it goes through the conveyor belt, it actually all rots. Like it all goes bad by the time it gets to the end of the conveyor belt and then the person's like, that'll be $1,000 or $2,000 groceries. So

Tony
you can always always rely on The Simpsons gun. Yeah,

Dr. Dan
exactly. predicting the future and all that. But yeah, so that that's Yeah, so if you're not getting enough fuel in your body, then your body's gonna store all the body fat and it's gonna eliminate the muscle instead and just not maintain it. And that's why you see we call it you know, the skinny fat people right? The people that look skinny they look skinny and close, but when they lift up their arm they've got that lunch lady arm that just wiggles right? It just like it just like like, you know, they wiggle it and you know, and it wiggles right?

Tony
We call those bingo wings. Yeah, in England, bingo wings. Yeah, the arm keeps waving after they finish waving.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, my apologies to those lunch ladies that might be watching this that don't have lunch lady arms. I am sorry, we're not making fun of you. We're not trying to shame you or anything like that. We're just for those that don't want to be overweight, don't want to be obese that want to have a healthy life and a lifestyle and want to be in the best health and and and longevity and be able to live a long productive, healthy and quality of life. Then this is for you. Right

Tony
100%

Dr. Dan
Yeah, so so Tony, is there anything that you want to tell them before we jump into today's rock star mission for them?

Tony
Yeah, when you sent me the when you sent me the topic for today talking about you know, forget motivation. You thought you know what, that is exactly what I needed to hear and I was thinking about it. And I remember hearing a while back, that motivation is a limited resource. And that if you wait for motivation to hit you, before you start something, you'll never start instead, start doing the thing, and the motivation will hit you. But motivation is a very, very limited resource. And we talked about being committed. And sticking with that thing, and sticking to it long after the motivation has left you. And related to all of this was was a tip that I got was that you can't be motivated and confused. At the same time. By confused, we mean, like, not knowing what you want, and why you want it and what's required to do it. Because if you know what you want, and you know why you want it, and you know what you got to do to do it. You you've got that clarity, you're not confused. And that's, that's when you can be motivated, and you can do that thing. But if you're if you're lacking motivation, perhaps you're just confused about what you want, and why you want it or what's involved a lot of the time when people just sit back and, and don't do the thing. It's just because they really just don't know what they need to do to get there. In which case, check out our previous episode where we talk about modeling, and getting help from people getting mentors, and and just modeling what they do to get the results. So I think is it a problem with motivation? Or is it a problem? Maybe with the confusion, lack of clarity on the actual situation? Is Is that is that something that rings? Any bells there with you then?

Dr. Dan
Yeah, yeah, um, for me, I mean, I one thing I didn't even mention, but inspiration is the same thing, whether it be motivation, inspiration, whatever you want to call it. If you're not committing to doing it, then it just ain't gonna happen. You know, because again, that's like saying, I'm only going to exercise when the sun is shining. You know, when the sun is really bright, and it's nice weather outside. That's the only time to exercise. Well, if you live somewhere that that rains a lot like Seattle, and doesn't see a lot of sun. Yeah, or England. There you go. Yeah, where you live, then yeah, that's what's gonna happen. So. So the confusing part actually confuses me. But I'm committed to still pretending like I know what you're talking about.

Tony
Ah, excellent. Amazing. Oh, I hope I didn't. I did a good job of explaining that viewpoint.

Dr. Dan
Just to me with my ATD and ADHD, it didn't make sense. Well, that's all good.

Tony
You have to watch the replay down.

Dr. Dan
That's what I will I'll go back and rewatch it. I'll, I'll print out the the transcript and I'm sure I will get it because that's how my brain works. Like literally, like, I was like, I talk about this all the time with my family. Yeah, I'll grab like in school, I would grab a book that I was like, required to read. And I would read the same page like four or five times and not even know what it said. Like, I just be like, what was that? What was that? What was I just didn't click for me because it wasn't something that really, it wasn't the words that I needed to hear the way I needed to hear it. Right? Yeah.

Tony
Yeah. No, I'm with you. With me. I found that if I read something out loud, I absorb it so much better. And I'm the opposite. Yeah, really? Well, yeah. Yeah.

Dr. Dan
If I read it out loud, it's even worse, because I'll read it out loud. But I go on this autopilot, where it's like a meditative state where I'm reading it, but I'm not actually listening or absorbing what I'm saying. It's really crazy.

Tony
Okay, that's weird. For me, I feel like you're only reading things. Oh, no, that's, that's hard. I

Dr. Dan
have to I have to have in, I have to have internal conversation with myself while I'm reading it. So I'm reading something. And I'm telling myself a story of what I'm reading. Like, I'm explaining it to myself in my own head when I'm reading something. Yes. How it is for me when it comes to reading, but when I'm listening to stuff, or when I'm actually when I'm watching the videos, even better watching videos, for me is way better. I'll sit down and I'll take notes. And I actually don't even like writing on paper. I like writing on the computer. Because then that way I can actually reorganize things. Because for me when I write on paper, I feel like I'm stuck in and like I'm I have to like make it perfect and I can't reorganize things. So I feel limited. I feel like I'm in handcuffs. And and then it stresses me out writing on paper sometimes.

Tony
Wow. Okay, so Isn't it amazing how people are different and we did say we're going to do an episode on ADHD and all other kinds of things, all the related superpowers that go with it. So I'm excited for that one because I've got some interesting insights to bring to that one.

Dr. Dan
Yes. For a spoiler for that is, the way you overcome that is you figure out what works for you, and you keep doing it. You know, and if you haven't found what works for you, keep testing until you do. That's, it's as simple as that. And once you do all man, it's like, it's amazing. It's like this firehose of information just comes through you and you just like, can't stop. You're just like, you know, just like, figuring everything out, write it all down, and you start, you start being able to master things in like, in like, you can master something in two weeks that would take people like five years to master. It's, it's insane. It's so awesome. Wow.

Tony
Okay. All right. Maybe we need to edit that bit out. So they watch it.

Dr. Dan
Exactly.

Tony
Yeah. So to kind of bring us back to this, the topic of motivation versus commitment and being unmotivated. And we've got, we've got some homework, haven't we?

Dr. Dan
Yeah, well, let's I don't even like calling it homework, because I always hated homework, right? Yeah. But you call whatever you want to call it, don't call it, you don't want to call it. I'm gonna call it your rock star mission for today. I like that. It's your mission. It's your purpose, right? Because these are things that you want to work on in your life. So your rock star mission for today, if you choose to accept it, and most importantly, commit to it, is I want you to go ahead and grab a paper and a pen. And we're actually going to make a downloadable sheet available for you, if you go to RockStarInLife.com/34 That's RockStarInLife.com/34 and you can print out your RockStar mission for today that we're talking about. And then that way, once you print it out, and you fill it out, you can for now, just to get started, you could write this on paper and pen or on your phone or on your computer or whatever you're in front of on a napkin on toilet paper. If you're in the bathroom, I don't care, write it down somewhere. And you can always transfer it over and readjust it and change it up. Because I'm thinking I'm sure things will change for you. But this way, you can print it out, you can make copies. And you could put it all over your house, like put it up on your window, put it up on your on your screen door, put it up on your frigerator, put it up in your bathroom window, put in the guest bathroom window, or mirror, put it everywhere, put it in your shower, put it in a waterproof plastic, like a Ziploc bag and put it in your shower. So you see it every single day. Because these are things that I've done that so that way I can commit to doing the things I want to accomplish. So what I want you to do, grab a paper and pen, like I said, or print this out. And I want you to think about what are the five things? What are five things that you want to achieve in your life that maybe you haven't fully committed to yet, what are just five things, just write five things down. If you can think of more, write those down as well. It's okay to write more, but come up with at least five things, they don't have to be perfect. If you're writing down two or three things, you're like, Oh, I can't think of another one. Well just write something down. I don't care if it's good, bad, dumb, whatever, it doesn't matter. Just write something down. You know, like, if you're like, Oh, it's not that important. Who cares? Write it down. Write down at least five things, if not more. From those five things, I want you to choose your top three, choose your top three that you want to actually accomplish, and you want to start with, okay, you can start them in any order doesn't matter. But I just want you to choose three of those five or more that you that you written down, choose which three to start with. And I want you to do at least one of them right now take some kind of action towards doing that accomplishment, doing what it is that you want to commit to doing. Whether it's a small project, whether it's learning something new, whether it's applying for a different job, whether it's starting your own business, whether it's writing a book, creating a course, learning how to create a course whatever it is that you want to do take some type of action, whether it's sending out email, purchasing a product, downloading a product for free watching a YouTube video and taking some notes on how to do it, what it is you want to do. Whatever it is make a phone call, it doesn't matter what it is, download My Fitness Pal, if you want to actually eliminate body fat, hire a trainer, hire an online coach, take a course whatever it is, I want you to take action on at least one of them right now. And after you do the first one, do the second one as well. And then do the third one as well. So do all three of them take some type of action. I'm not saying you have to follow through on all three of them. But take some sort of action on all three of them. And then go full force on at least one of them. You could do two or three if they if they if it works like that. If it's fine. It's like oh I want to eliminate body fat, and I want to get healthy. But I also want to write a book, you could do those two together easy. But if you're like, Oh, I want to start these two businesses, focus on one business, but take action on both of them. Because you might go, I really want to start this business. And you might think that, but then all of a sudden, you start getting into it and learning a little bit more about you like, actually, I should do this one instead, first. And that's why it's important to kind of like, take action on both of them to decide which one maybe you should go for first. And again, you can readjust, you know, even if it's a month, two months later, you're like, I think I made a mistake, I should have went with the other one first. That's fine. You can do that. You can switch, switch, switch back. But don't go back and forth over and over and over again. You know, one time is fine, but don't do like 10 different times. Right?

Tony
Yeah, yeah. So because it anything that you learn from the from the first experiment, you can always apply to the second business anyway. So it's not wasted time, I wouldn't ever look at it that way. It's, it's wonderful. It's figuring out what's best for you right now. And you wouldn't have figured that out if you hadn't taken action.

Dr. Dan
So what's next? Yeah, and that, that's another RockStar lesson, too, is be a quitter, which will save for another time. But, but the next thing you're going to do is after you write those three thing, things down, you want to write down, how often you're going to commit to doing those things, right. So if you're going to do half an hour, a day, an hour a day, two hours a day, three hours a day, or just 10 minutes a day, or if you need to do it every other day, or three days a week, or five days a week, whatever it is, write down how long you're gonna commit next to each one of those things. Okay. And again, remember, you're just writing down, you know, if you're going to do all three of those or two of those at a time, are we going to do one, but just write down how much you're gonna commit. And then you're going to choose whichever ones that you're going to actually do. So let's say you decide you're going to do only two of them, out of those three that you're actually going to continue with, but you're taking action on all three of them just to start. If you're gonna commit on just doing two of them, you're going to put down how much each day or every other day or how often you're going to, you're going to commit to doing those. But then if you decide, well, I'm just doing this one thing, which is start a new business, and I'm not going to also do these other things, then yeah, you just do the one thing that you're writing down those times too. And again, this will be all explained on the sheet as well, when you download it at RockStarInLife.com/34 So you can write that down. And then once you do, you're gonna sign it, you're gonna write your name, you're going to sign it, and you're going to date it. And that's what we're going to start with. Okay? make it really simple for you to get started, make it really easy to win. So you can actually get started with being committed and committed to yourself committed to your mission, your journey, right? your passions, your purpose in life, whatever you want to call it. This is how you get started. These are the first steps, this is your first step to being fully committed to whatever it is that you want to do in your life.

Tony
Right. mazing fantastic. Yeah, because you got to know where you're going. You know, to figure it all out, you got to put that destination into the Sat Nav to, for it to figure out the route to get there. And that's what's gonna happen when you fill this in. I'm super excited to hear in the comments below. If the platform you're consuming this on allows that maybe you're watching us on YouTube, pop it in the comments, maybe it's on Facebook, pop it in the comments. And definitely if you're listening on Spotify, or another audio platform or something, come on over to YouTube, and leave us a comment below and tell us what you're going to be doing next. We would love to see your comments. We read them all we respond to them all. And while you're there, hey, click subscribe, click the thumbs up and click that notification bell so that you hear when we next upload our next episode here on the YouTubes. And make sure you subscribe on all of those audio platforms as well. Just for extra consistency and commitment and drive to help you get your goals. I really enjoyed today, Dan, it's been it's been great.

Dr. Dan
Yeah, no, I did as well. I think for for not being not feeling like doing it earlier or not. Yeah. And not feel like like, like, Oh, it's a good excuse to not do it. I think we did a pretty good job. I

Tony
think we did. I think we did.

Dr. Dan
Fantastic and we proved it. So in this in today's episode, we actually not only talked about it we showed you. We showed you how you live this lesson. Right?

Tony
Exactly. I think I think we're on now love it.

Dr. Dan
All right, everybody, be a RockStar in your life. Make the world your stage.

Tony
And dont stop believin hold onto that feeling… I love it. Oh my god.

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