Work Life Balance Tips and How To Actually Do It!

Work Life Balance Tips and How To Actually Do It!

Work Life Balance. In this weeks episode we show you how to balance your work and life so you can have it all in life. How to be happy, healthy, wealthy, and successful in your own life and how you can use this today! Without this balance, you are sure to struggle and walk through sludge making things in your life harder than it needs to be. Why not break free from all that sludge and muck and make it easy for you to win in your life!

Just some of the benefits of using the tips and strategies we share in this episode:
– Operate, function and Vibrate at a higher level
– Improve your mood and attitude
– Handle stress better = less bad stress in your life
– Improve your health and wealth
– Be more efficient, productive and get things done easier and faster
– Enjoy yourself and your life more
– Have more time for yourself even when it feels like you don't have enough time
– Improve and better your family and social life with loved ones and friends
– Have a better quality of life!

So… Be sure to listen to every word and get ready to ROCK!

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Transcript: (Read Time: 38 minutes)

Dr. Dan 

In today's episode, we're going to be going over something that's super important for you to be able to have a successful, happy, healthy and wealthy life. And that is work life and balance, being able to have the ability to balance both your personal life, and the I don't like to call business, you know, because business is broken down to business professional that Yeah, that makes me feel when you think of business and buisiness I think of like, somebody's just going in circles for no reason. So I always try to avoid the word business, you know, buisiness because of that, but like what what was it you just said, professional life, professional life, the thing that brings you in money, and compared to like, you know, doing stuff with a family and everything else.

Siri Shakti 

It's like, how can we take all of these elements in our life and balance them out. And I think that this is one of the biggest things that people struggle with. Whether you have a you know, regular nine to five job, or you own your own business, then if you have children, you have also, you know, needing to take care of your physical life, which is working out exercising all those things. There's so many pieces of our lives, nowaday. And there's isn't there's so much expected of us nowadays, as there is in this modern world that we live in. And what we want to share with you guys is all the tools and ways of really kind of reframing how you look at this in your life, because this balance is actually achievable. But sometimes it just takes a little bit of effort to organize it in such a way and so we're going to share with you how we do that in our life.

Dr. Dan 

Exactly. And before we do, let's go to roll that intro.

Siri Shakti 

Welcome to the RockStar In Life Podcast, where you learn the secrets to unleashing your inner RockStar so you can make the world your stage.

Dr. Dan 

Hey fellow rockstars Dr. Dan here, and I've got Siri Shakti with me again.

Siri Shakti 

What's up everyone? Siri Shakti here.

Dr. Dan 

Alright, before we get rockin Tony wanted to say hi, he's still in Greece still in the Greek islands. And Santa rini is always called again.

Siri Shakti 

I think it's Santorini. Yeah, I

Dr. Dan 

want to say Santa Rita. But that's, that's a town here in California. All right, let's hear from Tony.

Hey, what's happening fellow rock stars, Tony here and I'm still in Santorini in Greece. We got married a few days ago, and we decided our vacation wasn't quite long enough. So we booked on an extra five nights which is one of the benefits of running your own business online or just being your own business owner to be honest, however that looks for you. So because I'm not there, I'm able to do the usual show with Dan so damn, Siri Shakti I got some questions for you about work life balance because being out here the work life balance has gone completely the other way instead now I'm just relaxing maxin shooting some people out by the pool however that goes

Dr. Dan 

all right, it was good to hear from Tony and yes, I can see being you know, in front of the ocean like whenever we go to the ocean here in like Laguna or Newport Beach, like we just don't want to leave we just and that's one of the biggest reasons why we moved here to Southern California so that way, we can just drive 15 2025 minutes to pretty much any of the beaches near us and just be able to just get to fill ourselves up and to be able to relax and enjoy that but then go back home and get back into business we don't have to get on a like an I don't even know how far it is from the UK to the Greek islands, but I'm sure it was a few hours and and plus all the travel expenses and you know, in the plane ticket and the you know, and getting a hotel and all that it adds up and it takes a lot of time to plan and time off. So that's why for us personally, we wanted to have like paradise within a short drive for us. So we're able to fill ourselves up like that. So I can see Tony, how you are there right now and you swung all the way to the to the life part of the balance right, you're on that side of the seesaw, right? If we're imagining as a seesaw on one side, our scale I guess would be a better example is that so you got the scale, one side is life, you know, and the other that fills you up and gives you that energy and gives you that power and keeps you moving forward. When you're exhausted and we eat, you start to forget like why am I doing this and then you got the other side which is that buisiness the business or you know the stuff that that's the professional life you want to call it, whatever you want to call it, and it kind of like you know, teeter totter like you're working overtime, you're working too much, you're working too much and then you're okay now I've got the life stuff too much. I just want to relax and not do anything and take two weeks off or something like that. So it is it's not it's hard for some to find that balance and it was for us in the past. But today it's a Heck of a lot easier. I think for a real life example I could use is what we normally record these episodes, I believe, what is it Wednesday? Yeah, for some reason I thought it was Tuesdays, but we normally record them on Wednesdays and and then I get them ready and I would either really well I released them on on Saturday is the day I would I would release them. Well, this week, I was like, man, I am tired, I'm burnt out. And I just felt like I was just like walking through mine. And I'm like, you know, I need more of that balance where I go over to the other side where I'm like, I need more life stuff stuff that's gonna fill me up and, and, and give me that energy and make me feel good again. So I you know, I took a couple days off, I did, you know, the bare minimum I needed to when it came to my professional my business stuff. And, and, you know, I worked out, I hung out with the kids, we watched some really, really good movies this week with the kids and just hung out and swam in hot tub. And I was able to get that balance back and start to get that energy back. And then today actually today that we're recording, this is Friday, so we're waiting to the last minute to do it. But you know, that's the benefit. That's the beauty of having that flexibility and allowing yourself to be flexible. Instead of I have to do it this day, no matter how I feel. You have that fallback, you know that you're able to do that. And even for like Tony, Tony is gone. And he recorded a quick clip to say hi to you guys. And you know, and to kind of contribute to this, you know, but he's able to go on to that life balance part of it, where he's more on the life stuff. While you know, he's able to also enjoy that, but also kind of contributed in a way. So he didn't have to like be like, Oh, I need to find a computer or you know, has a computer but I need to find a solid internet connection, that I could get high speed and be on video or record myself for the whole thing and kind of take myself away from all that other stuff. So I was able to find that balance. And that is super important to be able to do it. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I

Siri Shakti 

think it's so easy. When you know, I think I've talked to so many men and women about this. And I you know, I think that we all struggle with it in different ways. I noticed men tend to struggle with it more I think with work

Dr. Dan 

some women but masculine energy of the female, not that they're masculine, or they're a man, but they Yeah, we all have that feminine and masculine, you know, energy. So but yeah,

Siri Shakti 

well, because you know, you think about like, when you have your career, you have a business, like you are driven to want to make it better to provide for yourself or for your family. And so, you know, sorting out like, how are you going to adjust that. So it makes time for those other things. Sometimes it's like a really big struggle. And, you know, I noticed like people work really hard, then they go on like vacation. And they just like, you know, a lot of times you go on vacation, and you just spend the first week like super exhausted trying to decompress. Yep. So what we want to do is we want to actually find a way to actually weave this within our daily lives.

Dr. Dan 

And to not make it a struggle, because when it's a struggle, like we I know yours example of you know, it can be a struggle, and most people use that language, but we want to turn it into a challenge, right? Yes. So the first part is turning it into a challenge so that you can overcome it and it becomes easier and more fun, or becomes fun because you know, the struggle is not fun. struggle is never fun.

Siri Shakti 

No, no, not at all. Now, just the word makes you

Dr. Dan 

struggling. Just listen to that struggle.

Siri Shakti 

Yeah, I know, one of the things I really love to live by and is to walk the middle path and the middle path is like the path of no extremes. Right? So you know, what you want to do then in business is you know, like I actually this reminds me of a story. Many of you probably heard the name Kevin Hart before that. famous actor. I know he doesn't work comedian, as a comedian, you know, to run a workplace or the rock and yeah, so he had always been very driven in his career. And he got into a car accident about a year ago now broke his back. Yeah, it was really bad. Like he said, he broke a big portion, relearn

Dr. Dan 

how to walk and everything. Yeah, working out. He's a big he's a really big fitness buff, too. Yeah,

Siri Shakti 

yeah. And he said that it was probably him. Obviously, none of us want to have to go through something like that. But he said it was able to help him step back. And he realized that he was married to his work and dating his family. And so now he's he's had to teach himself to, like, for instance, he says his work days would normally go to like 7pm Well, now he's off. I think it was like 330 or something like that. He leaves his office and he makes sure he's home. He drives me home every night for dinner with his family. That's like one of his must now Because he wants that connection time he said if he's working on a movie then he really focuses in on the work that you know the task at hand when he's done filming he will say I'm sorry but I can't take any new jobs for the next like I think it was like two months or something and he says that is like family time where he really devotes himself and you know so we've we've experienced things like this in our life right? I mean, you know and there's going to be times in your life where there's more tension that has to go let's say to business or something you know to do your work but we've had to actually find that balance because think about it if you're paying a lot of attention to something but then barely any attention to something else yeah well one gets weaker while the other gets stronger and you know if you're not paying any attention to your physical well being and you're not working out taking care of this vessel that you have which is what it's going to carry you through your life eventually going to run out of steam you know so how how's it going to go with all that work you're doing

Dr. Dan 

you're fat he gets sick yeah motivated and I know because I was there you know, I wasn't getting sick but I was always tired and you know I got obese I was like 248 pounds not working out and just yeah, just it sucked it was it was a struggle to be like that you know, and yeah, and I turned around and said okay, I need more of this life stuff, versus the business stuff the professional stuff, working on my business you know, like almost all the time and I had to make the time I'm like okay, I'll just give myself at least 3045 minutes a day to work out and then spend an extra 45 minutes to an hour a day you know, broken up throughout the day to count my calories you know, so that like as you know, just eating better and eating healthier is not going to cut it because you need to monitor how many calories you have coming in yes protein, the macros the protein you know is very important the carbs and the fat and obviously balancing those out. So I do monitor the protein and all that. But you know, again, it's going to come down to the amount of calories you eat. So you know I had to commit to doing that which is part of the life stuff. So I took that time and I said okay, well I'm gonna watch a little less TV, I'm going to work on my business a little less, you know, 30 minutes to an hour or less a day taking that from somewhere else that you know, that wasn't serving me and helping me out and I put that there instead and then you know without the exercise and everything else. And you know, Lina down

Siri Shakti 

the word that you said commit commitment is actually one of that one of the big things for us because what we had to do you know what you what you'll want to do, because for each of us, it's going to be different. What are those things that are essential to your life? Is it having a certain amount of family time each day? Is it having a certain amount of time set aside to work out or to go on that run or to go to that yoga class, or to sit at home and just meditate? If we're each of us is different? Okay, so for myself, when I began to get clear on what those things were, what my recipe for success was, I knew for sure each morning I wanted to do morning yoga with you, I wanted to do meditation. Every morning I before anyone's awake, I go on a walk by myself and that's my time that I listened to my favorite music. I've also started doing dictation where I have this app and I actually record my voice as I'm recording this new book that I'm making. That starts out my morning for success and then I know later in the day is like my workout time you know after I've done my homeschool work with my kids and the chores have gotten done that I have divided out between myself and the kids then it's like okay my time to work out so this is what I mean recipe for success What are those things that are going to fill you up and help you to achieve that balance in your life and then wrapping back around commitment it's committing to those things. I mean we've we've committed for like 15 years now of doing morning yoga every day and I can maybe count on two hands at the most days that we've missed. Yeah I mean I

Dr. Dan 

missed today this morning. That's

Siri Shakti 

that's one of the days Yeah, we

Dr. Dan 

had to get out a little earlier. We like to not leave the house until like after like 1pm typically but you know we had to drive to a doctor's appointment for for the wifey here. And so I had to leave a little earlier. So I skipped the morning yoga I did a little chant which was you know, it was very helpful, but that's about it. But you know, sometimes that's going to happen, life happens, things happen, challenges happen and you know whether you miss it on purpose or on accident or whatever happens or you have to get on a flight at four in the morning or five in the morning, you know, or you have some kind of emergency come up. It doesn't matter. Just Get back on that schedule after that yes

Dr. Dan 

you know don't use that as an excuse of like, oh I missed it so now I don't need I'm not gonna do it anymore I might as well even if it's like two days that you miss or three days you miss or a week that you miss, just get right back up and start again. Yeah, I used to be a big excuse for me when it came to exercising to was like I used to train for years especially when I used to bodybuilding and I was doing like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday it would be my day off and then I'll go you know, Thursday and Friday and then the weekend off and I did that for years later when I started training again. And I'll use that as an excuse if I missed the day like I missed Thursday. Oh I'll just pick that up on on Friday but now like oh that's too close to the the next day so I'm like I'll just I'll just start again fresh on Monday. And now I don't do that anymore now I just I guess go until I needed a day off then I take the day off and then the next day becomes day one again. So that way I just restart that thing over again so I don't have to like or I shouldn't say restart I just start off where I left off right so if day one was this day, day two day three and I get to day three there's a day four and I miss day four I don't go back to day one I just do day for whatever day that is Yeah,

Siri Shakti 

yeah, exactly. Yeah, and you know like Like I was saying it's a commitment right but obviously like you were saying if there is something that comes up that like you know, we had to go dry for our two and we had to get up earlier this morning and so we had to give herself a little pardon you know to just continue the next day and that's it you know it's your symbol you know,

Dr. Dan 

yeah, and I was just gonna say your schedule it doesn't need to be our schedule yes like and it doesn't even have to be the things that we do when we say you need to get out there and exercise and do those things connect with nature. Maybe you like trail running Yeah, maybe you like hiking maybe you like swimming I mean whatever it is get out there and do something Yes.

Siri Shakti 

Yeah. You know Yeah, I mean taking care of your body is different for all of us. We all have like a different thing that we gravitate to. I know for a while I was like doing triathlons like that was the thing that was like super inspiring me and I mean there's people that do like like wrestling and you know you name it and so the bottom line is that not only is it possible but you deserve to have this kind of balance because having this this beautiful balance which you know I said the middle path is going to fill you up so much because it's going to help to attend to all the little areas of your life so nothing begins to fall short. And that's what we all want that's that's that feeling of success in all the different areas of your life fills you up with so much joy.

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, and it doesn't need to be 5050 either. So it doesn't need to be like oh I need to do 50% of the life stuff and you know the stuff that fills me up and then 50% of my business because that's just not that's not what's the word I'm looking for. That's not attainable really or it's just not I mean, I guess it is attainable but it's also not ideal because it's it's like it's so strict. Like I hate personally for myself and I know for you to I hate rules I hate when there's like rules to something I'm like okay, where do I break them generally you're you on the other hand I noticed you like rules at least you like to make them but then you don't follow them and then you like to beat yourself up we're not exactly so we're different on that part but I break the rules on purpose yeah and you like to create them and then you know so yeah, so I get everybody is different so it just depends on on how you to do it and also I was gonna mention super important is like some people like like we you know, like I own my own business and we do all you know the stuff that we do around the business so I don't have a strict I need to work these hours to these hours I can create my own schedule. So obviously some of you watching this if you don't have your own business or you don't create your own hours or you're stuck at a certain amount of hours, like maybe you own a plumbing business and you have to be open from this hour to this hour or you know a restaurant and you have to be open from this, these hours to these hours. Obviously you can you know, create your own schedule within that time. But some of you might be nurses or doctors or something like that. And you have a set amount of hours that you have to work you don't even make the schedule so you're kind of just stuck having to do what you have to do. And if that's the case that's fine you just need to be flexible you need to find on those days when you can fit that stuff in so maybe you can't do yoga like first thing in the morning because you work the night shift at a hospital or somewhere or at a restaurant or wherever wherever that's open in the middle of the night. You know maybe you you you know you work for a tow service or something and you work all night at nighttime or you're you know you're a cop or something. I mean who knows right? Something like that you know you're not going to sleep traditional hours like for me when I used to work when I was younger I used to work for ups you know delivery service, we used to wear those brown shirts and drive those trucks and I started out in the sorting area where we'd sort all the packages in the morning well my time at the job was like 4am is when we started so obviously I wasn't have the typical I'm going to wake up at three in the morning and do yoga instead you know I get up at like 320 get ready in 1015 minutes and drive down to you know to work because I just rushed down there because I was younger you know and I didn't want to like wake up too early and I'd go work and then I come home and I will go to sleep and then I wake up and a couple hours and then I would go to the I would eat and then I'll go to the gym and do all that stuff so you know you can be flexible within that so you know it's not going to be as strict I need to do it from this time this time. It's about finding that balance for you that works for you.

Siri Shakti 

Yeah, I know for myself like you said I tend to love to make schedules and what I've learned about myself is I don't do well myself making a perfect schedule like this thing happens at the sun this time Yeah, I do better with a list of responsibilities or when I say responsibilities it could be even like working out or you know so just things that I want to get done that day and then just checking them off it doesn't necessarily have to be in a certain order it's just a matter of I'm fitting them in like a little puzzle throughout my day yeah and

Dr. Dan 

so people might love that they might love a schedule where they're like from this time to this time I do this yes and they love to stick to it and that's fine if that works for you then go for it but it's also about if you miss that for some reason something pops up you get an important phone call or something happens you can't be like well my workout time was from like one to two but I got a call and I got this and that I had to do it so now I'm not going to work out it's like no do it a little later because really the only hard like like times that you should have would be probably your sleep and eating right like when I have to eat you know okay well I eat dinner sometime between five and 7pm so if you eat sometime between then then work out sometime that fits in there you know maybe you eat an hour later or an hour earlier then you work out afterwards whatever it needs to be you got to kind of fit that in there when necessary.

Siri Shakti 

Yes, yes. And there was something that I thought about too sometimes you're going to go through experiences in life where something's going to need a little more attention for a while like okay since we've been talking a lot about business let's let's use as an exiting sample maybe you're working on a project at work or for you sometimes you have like launches in your business and you know you'll have to like buckle down because there's going to be more tension needed to do that. So some of the things may get less attention for a few weeks but those things don't happen all the time. So you just need to give yourself permission to do that because sometimes that attention is needed to make whatever you're working on really great you know and and then as soon as like I know for you when your launches are finished then you resume back into whatever you know balance you had before

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, I remember some of the product launches I'd be like working like a week or two weeks in a row like like almost non stop I mean I would sleep a couple hours a day maybe like four or five hours which isn't that much for me personally and I would just keep pushing and pushing and pushing through and then once I was done I would like take two weeks off of doing anything pretty much like I would answer an email here and there or a text message from my partner or for people that work for us and you know and do payroll whatever but that's about it. Like other than that like I was gonna maybe do like 20 or 30 minutes max a day of something and some days you wouldn't even hear from me because I would just be laying in a recliner watching like a binge watching some show that I ever watched before go wow it's a great show. And I get like all my all my shows in that way and that's great so whatever it is for you some people can't stand sitting in a chair like my dad. He watches some stuff but he can't he he just like gets too antsy be sitting down and including yourself too. You only watch a little bit and then you're just like I gotta go do something and that's totally

Siri Shakti 

made day and night. I'm like yes cuddle watch me.

Dr. Dan 

I'm in like for like if you were to do a launch, like I do and then you're like okay, well now for the next two weeks. Watch a bunch of shit. No, it's not gonna work for you. You're like, I want to go to the beach. I want to go walking, I want to go. I want to go hiking,

Siri Shakti 

go hiking. Come on everybody.

Dr. Dan 

Exactly. So yeah, just being flexible and being able to do that. And for me, it's also knowing yourself, like how you like to work. Everybody has a different style too. So obviously if you have a job and it's from a set amount of time Then there's not much else you can do about it. But if you're a business owner, you're running a business, starting a business doing a side hustle that you're trying to build, it's knowing yourself and how you work best. For me, I work best in spurts. But you know, one of my my, my business partner, he actually likes to work from like five 6am till 3pm, or 4pm, or somewhere around there to three 4pm. And he has to work from then to that, and then he's after that he kind of shuts down the computer, and he'll do some stuff on the phone here and there, you know, working and stuff. But that's about pretty much it. And he kind of just walks away from me, I need to do spurts. So I like to kind of start sometimes I start at like 11am, you know, sometimes at noon, sometimes at 1pm, I start and I'll work for an hour, two hours, and then I'll take an hour half hour break and watch something, and then I'll work again for another hour or two. And then sometimes I'll take another break, or sometimes I'll just stop all together, or work, you know, like, especially when it comes to certain things I won't do at night. But when it comes to like video editing, or just writing down notes or ideas, I will do that at night. So sometimes I'll do that like it after dinner, like seven or 8pm, I might write some stuff down or do just like 1020 minutes of extra editing or something like that, or coming up with ideas. So it's been very sporadic for me, and that works best for me. But knowing your own style, and what you need to do is I mean, and again, it should be pretty easy to figure that out. Because what do you gravitate toward not what you think you need to do, but what you are what you wish you could do, but what do you gravitate towards, because typically, that's what works best for you just stop trying to be somebody else, you know what you think you need to be like, you might watch Gary Vee or something Gary Vaynerchuk. Or you might watch somebody like Grant Cardone, or somebody like that. You're like, oh, they're hustlers. They're out there hustling and grinding and working nonstop, and not seeing their kid till the till the weekend or something like that. But you know, if that's not in your DNA, the way that you work best, then don't force yourself to do that, you know, work what works the best way for you, because you at the end of the day, you have to fill yourself up, yes, you have to be the one that wants to keep going through and keep pushing through. And for me, that that would suck, like, I'm not going to work nonstop through the whole weekend and then take the weekend off. Because that would just be torture. For me. I

Siri Shakti 

remember when you when years ago, like when we first met and you had to do that it was like it felt to you like your frickin head hitting your head into the wall every day, you were just it was just not in your nature. You know, and I think I love what you said, because like, we're all so different. And so what works for one person is going to be different for another person. But ultimately, we all want to find that flow that balance. Now, one of the things that came to me was that, because I know for myself, sometimes when we're so busy with like, you know, work with family with all the responsibilities that we have to get done, you know, because like, especially if you have kids, like there's so much responsibility, it's easy to, to think, Oh, I can't find that balance. And these are really if you think about it, if when you really get down to it, these are excuses that we tell ourselves, they feel very convincing. I mean, I can't tell you for how many years I convinced myself, I didn't have the time to work out until I realized that even working out for 15 minutes a day was going to give me results. Yeah. And that was part of me finding that balance. I mean, that was 15 minutes out of my day, we all have 15 minutes. And if you don't, then you need to take a look at your schedule.

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, one of the one of the recommendations I made for you was because again, I used to own my own personal training business, and I was a trainer for several years. And, and one of the things I'd said to you was, hey, if you don't have time, five minutes, three minutes, like just do something like if you got exercise bands, we have a full gym downstairs, obviously. But you know, if you got exercise bands, just do like a couple sets of something, you know, you can do some some, you know, pull down rows for your back, you could do some chest presses, put the bands behind you push push forward, you know, you could do some biceps and triceps, and then that's it. Yeah, that's all you need to do, you could do that in five minutes, you can do a super set in less than three minutes. Do all that and that could be the whole day. But you know what, here's the cool thing. You got more time later do the same thing again, do it three times in one day then and just do that a couple times a week, you know, two to three times a week at the minimum. And there you go. So who doesn't have 20 minutes a week that they can actually fit in, especially if it's going to help you get more energy, which is in turn and again More time if you think about it, because you're going to have more time because you're going to be doing things a heck of a lot better, you know, more efficient. So something else because you didn't have the energy or the focus might have taken you like, an hour to do might only take you 30 minutes to do or 45 minutes to do. And you'll do better with less mistakes. Because you're more clear, you're more focused, you got more energy to do those things. Yeah. Yeah. And

Siri Shakti 

what I've noticed, too, you told me before, is I would go and I would do that one exercise. And then I was already starting to get into it. And I would finish off with like, two more exercises, because I was like, This is fun. Yeah.

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, that's, that's kind of the hack is. Because, you know, when I was younger, and I'm all business model training business, there was no excuse. I you know, I was in the gym. So I was like, Okay, I'll work out and you know, I had to, I had to be in good shape in order to sell my clients, why should help them, you know? And so for me, it was like, oh, now I'm starting, you know, starting back up, when I got obese myself, trying to get back into it, it was easy to make excuses. Like, Oh, I just don't feel like it. I just don't want to do it. And so I had to kind of trick myself, I define a little hack, how can I force myself to do it? Okay, what I'll do that is, here's I convinced myself, instead of convincing myself to do a 45 minute, hour, hour and a half workout, I'd say, Hey, here's what I'll do. I'm going to commit to getting on the treadmill for 10 minutes. That's it, at least I just went on a walk, I'll do a 10 minute treadmill thing, you know, And hey, if I'm feeling good, then I'll do one exercise. And that's it. One set one exercise, at least I've done something today. And then the thing is, is motion creates emotion, right? So once you start doing it, you start feeling good, you start adding these endorphins, and things are moving, moving around inside you and you're just like, get this blood flow, you start feeling good. You're like, Oh, I want your body saying your body, your mind saying I want more of this. Yeah, so then you do more. But that's the secret that's like the hack right there is to say, Hey, I'll just do five minutes on the treadmill, or 10 minutes on the treadmill of one set or something of something. And that's it. And then if I want to do more, I'll do more if I don't, I'll be okay with it. I'm okay with not doing any more.

Siri Shakti 

And what's so cool is as as you begin to create this in your life, people will notice this, you know, your family will notice this, your friends, but especially like if you have children, your children, will will see how you tend to these areas of your life. And they're going to learn from you. And so I actually think this is perfect, because I know Tony created a question for us right? From his vacation location.

Dr. Dan 

So yeah, well, let's, here's Tony's question.

We've got a two year old and she is a bit of a handful Not gonna lie. Now, when it comes to work life balance for parents, what are your views, whether it's new parents, whether it's parents who work from home, work, life balance, it all changes when you've got kids in the mix? So for new parents, all parents, parents working from home, super curious, what is your advice when it comes to work life balance?

Siri Shakti 

That is an awesome question. And we have a lot of experience. Since we have three kids that are home, like a lot, because we homeschool

Dr. Dan 

moms, and we were new moms and new dads at one point as well.

Siri Shakti 

Yep. Oh my gosh, yes, it seems like forever ago. Well, I think that as your kids get older, this does become easier, because you know, like what we have experienced now. So I can look back and remember what it was like when they were little compared to now when they're older. You know, now they're self sufficient. So I mean, they helped me around the house, they helped me cook dinner. You know, they go and do their workouts in their exercises while I do mine. So it's like a whole different thing. But when you have little ones, little ones need a lot of attention from you. They want to be with mommy, they want to be with daddy. And they need tending to they need to be watched after him. And so the first thing that came to mind with your question, Tony was get creative. You have to be creative and what I mean by that, give you some examples. I remember when our kids were babies and I thought okay, I had always been a very physically active person. And you know, at the time I didn't feel comfortable for you know, when they were really little leaving them at like the gym daycare, you know, it was a little bit older. I was like, okay, you know, they can play and play in that. But I want to things that I could do every day. And so what we did is we got ourselves a double stroller, and the girls would sit in that and this is hilarious. And I'd have Bodie in a baby sling on my body. And I remember I'd walk through my neighborhood I'd like power walk.

Dr. Dan 

You're one of those joggers. Oh my god big tires. Yeah, go pretty much anywhere. Yeah,

Siri Shakti 

and then Bodhi was little, so he didn't weigh that much, you know, he was an infant. And every pretty much every day that was like, my thing is I would go on these walks, and that was my time for for me but also, most of the time the kids would, they enjoyed it so much they would just lay down and relax and and I would put earbuds in and I would listen to like my favorite music and just like reconnect with myself. And that may seem like from the outside explain that may seem like a lot. But actually, it was, it was such a beautiful time we are looking back on that I remember it being really special. It was like, my time with my kids and, but able to actually still exercise. And then also, I was you know, I've always been a yogi. And so I wanted to do my yoga practice. And so I would lay my infant Bodie next to us and I would do yoga, or when he was really little, he would lay in my arms, and I would meditate for as long as I could. So that's what I mean about getting creative, you know, making the excuses that okay, as a parent, I now can't exercise or I can't work on towards my goals. There are times that you can do that. You just have to carve that out for yourself, whether it's between nap times, or I know for instance, sometimes when you came home from work, I would be like, Hey, can you watch the kids for a few minutes, so I can actually just have a little time to myself, maybe even go on a run or something like that. So

Dr. Dan 

yes, being flexible, being flexible, there's a lot of stuff that we spoke about is being flexible, being adjustable. And being able to just kind of flow with how things go. And you know, you can have like a plan. But you know, if you have a plan of like, Oh, my toddler goes to bed or takes a nap from this time to this time. That's a guarantee fail right there. They're not going to always stick to that plan. So you have to have a backup plan which is be flexible. You know, work around that maybe you do have to skip that day or baby. Like you just said there's really no excuse that you could just throw your baby. Yeah, on a little carrier or I like the carrier thing because it's like, then that way you're getting more exercise. Because it's like you know, we buy those weight vests? Yeah, that are like 40 pounds or 20 pounds or whatever. You just have your baby. Yeah, we just have your baby on top of you and your you know, are you just holding them and doing you know, curls? With the baby? Yeah, good.

Siri Shakti 

Yeah, actually, I have a video of my brother, they just had their first baby and he's laying on the ground. He's like, he's like, lifting, eating up in the air like bench pressing his his baby. I love whatever works, I

Dr. Dan 

used to do that too. I remember I used to take the babies and you know, shoulder, press them and get it get a good workout that

Siri Shakti 

way. And they're like giggling because they love it, they love

Dr. Dan 

it, you know, and then taking them to the you know, to the park, and they get exercise as well. You know, obviously, depending on the age of the child, but you know, even as a baby when they couldn't even go on the swings, or anything like that, we put them in a stroller and push them and we would ask sighs and they would just fall asleep, or they loved it, they got exposed to it and a little like they're looking around and just having a great time. And it's just really great for you.

Siri Shakti 

You know, also as far as as, like, I know, I think women feel this way too. But I noticed men really, really need this. And this is just from experience of talking to other women and their relationship with their husband. But as a parent, when, let's say a man had been at work all day long, I noticed that women can adjust from role to role easier, they can go from like work mode to mom mode a lot quicker. Men. And I'm not saying this is across the board. You know, that's just a general observation. Yeah. But I typically see that men need a little bit of adjusting time. And so I know for you when you worked out of the house, we started to realize that and i i could

Dr. Dan 

see it when I have my own office. You mean so outside the house? Yeah.

Siri Shakti 

So when you were outside the house, and then you come home in the evening, I could just see it on your face like you needed to decompress. So we started getting you know, I would do my best to you know, I think oftentimes if you're home all day with the kids as a mom, you know, you're thinking oh, I've been with the babies all day or the

Dr. Dan 

time that I care. You take them now. And it's just like in it just sets is like yeah, ruins everything. You know,

Siri Shakti 

what I would do is I'd be like, Okay, I'm going to give Dan like half an hour or like, you know, 45 minutes to just like, go in his room. Take a deep breath. Yeah, there wasn't ever a set time it was just, you know, a little bit of space. Sometimes you'd even go and like take a quick shower and then come out and it was like all of a sudden you were just like able to decompress and, and then you were present for us. So I think that that having that kind of That kind of plan worked out between you and your your partner. Is that part of that beautiful dance of a relationship of how can we help each other? To? Yeah,

Dr. Dan 

well, you definitely have to help yourself to Yes. Because you know, I mean, obviously you were already doing it. But because you were out there, you know, exercising and doing stuff with it with the kids, you weren't at home, just stressed, like, when's my husband coming home to take these darn kids, because they're driving me nuts. But I hear that all the time. And I've seen it firsthand, with family and friends where, you know, the spouse comes home, and they're like, you take the kids now, or they go to a party or somewhere, they're like, you take the kids, no, you take the kids and they're like, like forcing them back and forth. You're like, you're obviously not taking care of yourself. Yeah. Because,

Siri Shakti 

because the person with the children all day had given so much themselves without finding because they didn't find those ways to like, fill themselves up. Like, like I said, going on a walk with the kids, you know, little things like that. So you basically are giving so much that you're freaking worn out, you know, so So yes, it is essential that you take responsibility for yourself, too. It's only going to help strengthen yourself and your relationship as well. Yeah, I

Dr. Dan 

love that. And then you know, a lot of this advice can be whether you have kids or not, at all pretty close to the same and you know, some of the things that you can do whether you're a parent, or you're not a parent, I mean, what are some of the things that they can do to fill themselves up? I mean, for us, I mean, obviously exercising, getting out of nature, walking, hiking, running, you know, swimming. I mean, these are all exercise type stuff. So those are great. They fill you up.

Siri Shakti 

And we have like, we love movie nights. Yeah, like, like fun having some fun, we only fun. Everyone loves fun because it's fun.

Dr. Dan 

We do movie nights or we watch a show every single evening as a family and obviously there's times where you know, we watch a movie like last night we watched World War Z, zombies and our son and one of our eldest daughter did not want to watch so they went off and did their own thing they watched a movie together and or a show together while we watch that and then tonight, we'll watch something else and we'll all watch it together as a family.

Siri Shakti 

You can have like game nights. Sometimes do that.

Dr. Dan 

together like some of that what was the game you guys are playing last sackboy is this like,

Siri Shakti 

Oh yeah, playing video games. Like we were playing video games together, which is super you you know, some people have this idea that like playing games, you're just like checking out but no, like, we were like talking to each other interacting.

Dr. Dan 

Like I got this, I got this, no, I'm gonna win over the way. It's fun.

Siri Shakti 

And then you could do bigger things like on a day off of work or you know, whatever, when you have a break. You guys plan like an outing day. You know, like, I know, we'd love to go to the beach.

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, we do that on weekdays. So we'll go that's actually usually what we always go, we'll go on a weekday or something, or Well, you know, before all this other stuff happened, we were all we were going to like places like Knott's Berry Farm or Disneyland and doing fun stuff that the kids really enjoy doing. And do it on a weekday where the crowds are busy or anything like that, and fill ourselves up, you know, getting massages, you know, that's also great. You know, anything that's physical relaxing for you that you enjoy, be reading a good book could be filling yourself up, that you enjoy doing.

Siri Shakti 

Yeah. And this is all part of the balance. And just, you know, think about like, how are you going to apply this to your life? Because like we said, for each of us, it's going to be different. So you know, really, what we encourage you to do is take some time for yourself, like find a quiet moment. I love to journal so like even you could type it up, you could write it up and write down what is that? What is the balance look like for you? What does it look like with with work it with family and with caring for yourself with with having fun, all those things, all those different elements that are going to make up your life?

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, I think we can go right into the RockStar mission. If you choose to take it, commit to it, and do it. For today's RockStar mission, go to RockStarInLife.com/38 That's RockStarInLife.com/38 So today's RockStar In Life mission is for you to write down what are those things that you can do right now to bring that balance into your life? Like what are some of the things that you could do, it could be anything that we mentioned or something that we're able to think about reading a good book, maybe for you. It's a creative part of writing a book. It is like I've always wanted to write the story or something or a poem or something like that. And maybe you can do that every single day or a couple times a week, exercising, going on walks, hiking, running, biking, whatever it is for you getting massages at multiple things. So you can write down Like what what are some of the things that you aren't currently doing? Or maybe you're not doing them enough right now. So what is some of the things that you can either do more of or you can commit more to or you can start doing that you weren't doing before and it could be anything that we talked about right now just something for you to get started and then just start doing it. You know, and the cool thing is, is you could add more as more things you know, as you see more things like you might like all of a sudden be watching TV or just surfing the web or checking something on Facebook and an ad pops up for learn to sail you know, or take a pleasure cruise or you know, or go paddleboarding in the ocean or do paddleboarding yoga, which you've done before. Right? You know, it could be any of those things they sound exciting or kayaking or surfing learning to surf or surfing I mean, whatever it is for you, you know, figure it out, write down a bunch of things you know, maybe you want to go snowboarding, maybe you want to go on a helicopter ride, I don't know zip lining, you know

Siri Shakti 

and then commit begin to put into action that commitment that you are going to stick with some things with these things in your daily life to create that balance.

Dr. Dan 

Yeah, fill yourself up yeah. So it's so that way you have more energy, more focus, more desire to be able to do the things that you want to accomplish in your life Yeah, yeah, it gives you It gives you that fuel gives you that energy and without that without with with an empty gas tank. How You Can you fulfill your life and your purpose and your dreams the things that you want to accomplish. Yeah,

Siri Shakti 

I completely agree. Yeah. Awesome. You got this guy's

Dr. Dan 

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Siri Shakti 

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