In this episode, we show you how negative words, limiting beliefs and the feeling for the need of sympathy often can be addicting like a drug and hold you back from being your true self.
Take this journey with us today as we show you how to kick the sympathy addiction, ask better quality questions and come from a place of solutions instead. Set yourself free from this addiction today!
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
Ep#9: Growing Pains and Not Growing Feel Good
Hidden Messages in Water Video Clip
Transcript: (Read Time: 46 Minutes)
Intro: Welcome to The RockStar in Life podcast where you learn the secrets to unleashing your inner RockStar so you can make the world your stage.
Siri Shakti: What's up fellow RockStars in life? It's Siri Shakti and I have my awesome co-host joining me today.
Dr. Dan: What's up everybody? Dr. Dan in the house.
Siri Shakti: Today is a really great episode. We were sitting down thinking about what it was we want to share with you guys today. One thing came to mind. This is really powerful. I'm really looking forward to this. It's called, Your Words Create Your Reality.
Dr. Dan: Yup. I like that.
Siri Shakti: It's very mystical.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I had some other ideas for names. One of them was one of my favorite things, or actually, I think, you came up with, it was change your words, change your world was another one.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Then, winners never win and wait, now that's wrong.
Siri Shakti: Winners never win?
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Winners never win. I don't know. Whiners never win and winners never whine.
Siri Shakti: There we go.
Dr. Dan: I like that one too. Also, you don't deserve it. Then, I was also thinking of just boohoo, wah wah.
Siri Shakti: Nice.
Dr. Dan: If you like any of those instead and you think we should rename it, so like boohoo wah wah, just let us know …
Siri Shakti: That's a good one.
Dr. Dan: … in the comments.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I like winners never win, that was a good one.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Winners never win so why even bother, right? Totally. No, just yeah, okay.
Siri Shakti: What we're talking about here, because I really want to drill in to the core of what this is about …
Dr. Dan: Into your DNA, we want to put this into your DNA.
Siri Shakti: Yes. Years ago, I did not grasp or understand just how powerful words were. I lived my life like most of us do. We just throw around words like they don't even matter. It's very unconscious. As I began learning from teachers and studying, I really started to grasp just how powerful words are. Not only in what we say out loud to other people but also what it is that we say to ourselves, that inner dialogue. Words are so powerful. One common thing that I began to notice as I was growing and learning from different teachers and studying, is that some of the most successful and happy people that I came across, they were very selective of what words they use in their life. Didn't you notice this as well, Dan?
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I remember in the beginning, it was very difficult because we're constantly monitoring our self and each other.
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: When you're holding on to something and you're having an emotion towards something. I don't even know if we've mentioned this before, we probably have but how many times have you said to me like, Dan, you're making me angry, or, you're pissing me off. Then, what would I say to you?
Siri Shakti: Nobody can piss you off. Wait, what did you say? Now I can't remember it.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, nobody can piss you off or make you angry. Only you can make yourself angry.
Siri Shakti: Yes. I'm surprised I couldn't remember that on the spot because how many times have I heard you say that to me.
Dr. Dan: Because it's been a long time since then.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: We haven't really done as much. Yeah, some people might say like, oh, you're lucky because both of us are going through this at the same time and helping and supporting each other. Usually, when you're feeling like that, you don't want to know that. You want to hold on to that emotion because it makes you feel not better but it gives you that sympathy, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I can remember many, many times where I was really upset about something and you would say that to me because maybe it was something I was constantly complaining about. You would say that to me and I would actually get really irritated with you. Actually no, let's be honest, I'd get pissed off when you would say that no one could make me feel that way other than myself. Then, when I would calm down a few hours or a few days later …
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: … and come to my senses, I would always come to you and I would realize, it was absolutely the truth. That it had to come from me.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I think the last time I remember saying that to you, you got angry and I could see it in your face. I didn't even say, nobody can make you angry. We didn't even have to go there because we've gotten so good at this now. You got angry from just something and I just looked at you and I say, well, you're not angry at me. You just want to be angry right now.
That's totally fine. Why don't you just go downstairs and go to the other room, get angry and what did I say? Then, text me in an hour or two saying that you're better now. You were downstairs and I think in a couple minutes you replied back saying, okay, I get it. I'm feeling better now.
Siri Shakti: It was just a couple minutes.
Dr. Dan: It used to be like an entire day though, like you'd be angry and then it wouldn't be until the next day or two sometimes.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Wow. How far we have come?
Dr. Dan: I know. Good times, right?
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: I wish we had those on recording. That would have been fun.
Siri Shakti: Okay.
Dr. Dan: On video, for me at least, I like looking at that stuff.
Siri Shakti: What happens is that we have certain things that we voice outloud. We tend to hold on to certain patterns of things that we tell our self and that we say outloud. What happens is that words become, in essence, like a lens in which you see your life through. It really creates the reality that you're living. I can tell you firsthand from personal experience that I've been through many experiences where I was doing this exact thing. I was telling myself a story on a regular basis that was oftentimes very limiting. It was actually holding me back from my full potential or from being able to find solutions in my life. We're going to go deeper into this. I know before we go deeper into this, you had this beautiful example that you wanted to share about the water?
Dr. Dan: Yup, super beautiful.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, it is.
Dr. Dan: That's exactly what I was going to say, either that or pretty. I was going to say pretty or beautiful.
Siri Shakti: I'm going with beautiful. It's beautiful, guys.
Dr. Dan: Nice. All right. See how there's this book that we heard about years ago. I think it was written in 2005, I don't know how far back it goes besides the book, because I've never looked into that. It's a book called “The Hidden Messages in Water”. “The Hidden Messages in Water” and you can pick it up on Amazon or one of your bookstores or something like that. It's a really, really cool book. You can even go on YouTube and there are some videos and some stuff on there as well. It's from this scientist, Dr. Masaru Emoto. I'm probably saying that wrong.
Yeah. What he did was, in a nutshell, he actually discovered that the crystals formed in frozen water, he took water, he took them from all over the place too. He took like polluted water, non-polluted water, blessed water and stuff like that and he froze it. He actually froze it. He even put labels on them and wrote things like hate, love, murder, I want to kill you and things like that. I think he even wrote like Hitler one or something like that or Satan or devil or I don't know. A bunch of stuff like that. Then some was like love, blessed or blessings or things like that or …
Siri Shakti: … joy.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, joy, some powerful words like that. Under a microscope, he would actually look and see what the effect had on the water. I guess on a molecular level or whatever. What he noticed was, all the words that were positive, positive reinforcement words, whether it be love or anything like that, it showed in their words, it was like brilliant, complex and colorful snowflake patterns. Like beautiful, you look at me like, whoa, this looks like really cool, crystal-looking …
Siri Shakti: Actually, I encourage you … we'll put the link on there. They are so beautiful. There's the beautiful.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, there's the beautiful, the pretty. Then, the ones that have the negative words or negative thoughts and emotions in the writing on the bottles themselves, they formed like, in their words, were like incomplete, misshaped patterns with dull colors. In other words, they were ugly. It didn't look right. You can tell. It's all misshaped, deformed. It's just weird-looking. It looks like something you would imagine looking like a disease under a microscope.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Where it just doesn't look healthy.
Siri Shakti: What's so cool too, I remember one example. They took a water sample from polluted water and I think it was in India. They froze it and they took a picture of the crystals. The crystals were exactly what we were just talking about, they were dull, they were just really ugly. They weren't defined and dark. Then, he took that same sample of water and he wrote words like love and joy and happiness on it. A few days later, froze that same sample and the crystals were already transforming into beautiful crystals like the ones you were talking about.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I remember reading also that they did that with, exactly what you just said, it was all misshaped and looking nasty.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Diseased, like diseased water. They gave it to a child and the child was holding it. I don't know if he was playing with it or what but giving it love. He was a happy child. Then, they looked again and the same thing. It looked beautiful. It was changed. I don't know how long it took or what they did exactly, but I saw the before and after.
Siri Shakti: It's so cool.
Dr. Dan: I thought that was really cool. Imagine if water under a microscope can show at this level. Imagine what the words can have on you and others around you.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: It's a difference between listening to this podcast where we're talking about … in each episode, we're talking about something to uplift you and help you push yourself further and just be a better you. Opposed to if we were just sitting here like saying a bunch of negative stuff and how the world's crap and junk. Some of guys might still listen to that but again, there's got to be a balance. There's got to be a balance because, for me even personally, so much stuff going on the world right now. We don't watch the news on TV. We get our news from Facebook and YouTube. We try and stick to the comedians and we only follow people on Facebook that are friends and we ignore the ones or unfollow the ones that are constantly talking about the doom and gloom.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Hidden Messages in Water video clip from the movie “What The Bleep”
Dr. Dan: We want to stay informed with what's go on in the world but we don't want to consume ourselves with it. There are some people out there that in the news, they'll take like two hours to talk about everything that's bad in the world. You want to definitely bounce yourself on that. It has an effect on you. You want to have that balance. You want to be careful with that.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Actually, I don't remember what percentage of our body is water, do you remember? It's like 70% or something …
Dr. Dan: It's like 70%, I've heard 70 to 80%.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. When you were just saying that, it made me think, obviously, words regardless are going to have power over us. You think about the power of the words on the water samples that he created and if our body has that percentage of water on top of it that just goes hand in hand. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Exactly. I know a lot of people and including myself, years and years ago, I would say things internally to myself. Heck, I even remember when I was a teenager, that's in front of the mirror and I just say things to myself like, you don't deserve happiness, or, you don't deserve money. Not in those exact words but it was something like that and you don't deserve success and you don't deserve blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Or, you'll never have those things. Or, you're ugly. It's having that sympathy for yourself because you're trying to satiate something.
It is, it's pretty much exactly the same as just going and just eating a bunch of junk food because you're feeling depressed.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Just feeling sorry to yourself. Eating like one little piece of something or eating a little bit of something or feeling depressed for a couple minutes or hours, especially if it's something big. Somebody passed away or somebody just got a break up. No one's saying that you can't grieve and you instantly like throw your fist in the air and go, yes, I will feel great and I will not let this stop me, or anything like that. Yeah, you can grieve and yeah, you can go through that. You just don't want to live there to where you're doing this day in, day out for the next couple weeks.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Depending on how deep it is, how big it is. The loss of a loved one or something, of course, it's going to take longer.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Something as stupid as somebody said a comment to you and you felt a certain way, you notice I didn't say, they made you feel, right, because you've given them the control. Something like that, you should be able to rebound with as quick as possible and understand that, two things, one, it's not about you. There's a reason why they said that to you, it's not because of you. It's something going on with them self. Also understanding that, don't give them the power.
Not like you're handing them the power when I say, don't give them the power. What I'm saying is don't give your power away. Not that they're going to accept that power but you're giving it away. If you're saying like other people can make me feel a certain way. A great example of this that I remember and I know you remember this as well. It's been a while since I've said this, but if somebody hands you a gift. Imagine somebody hands you a gift, it's wrapped up and everything and you don't accept that gift. If you say, no, thanks. You just don't even grab it, you just let them hold it in their hands.
Siri Shakti: Right.
Dr. Dan: Whose gift is that now?
Siri Shakti: It's their gift.
Dr. Dan: It's the gift of the person that … they had it, it's theirs. They were going to give it to you. You didn't accept it, you walked away, they're still holding it. It's their gift. Even if they put it on the ground and walked away, it's still their gift. You never took ownership of it. That's the same thing goes with anything that somebody can say to you or try to make you feel a certain way. Yeah, I understand. It makes sense. It is a challenge when you're trying to live this way, yes, but you get better with practice. Just recently, myself, this happens constantly in our life, something like this happens but sometimes there's something a little deeper. I had somebody in my life that was really trying to make everybody around them feel really bad.
At first, I got wrapped up in it. I didn't go off on them or anything, but I was talking to some of my friends and stuff. I was like, yeah, yeah. I can't believe it. Can you believe it? I'm like, yeah, that's just … man, yeah, they just want to make us feel like crap.
Siri Shakti: Right.
Dr. Dan: They just want us to all feel like crap. All they do is just walk around thinking, who can I make feel crappy today? It took a while. It took almost an entire day, maybe 24 hours. No, a little less than that. I think it was the next day, we did yoga and then I came from a different place. I looked at them and I'm like, okay, okay, okay, let's get this emotion out of it. Let's get this emotion out of it. What I'm making this be, I know their intent is to do something and they're not even aware of it, that's the thing.
Siri Shakti: That's what I was just about to say, yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. That's just how they operate. Whether they're raised that way or their conditions or whatever it was that got them to the place or they felt … it made them feel a certain way and they enjoyed it when they were growing up or something. Like, oh, I can make so and so cry and then I feel better about myself.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: I can put down these people and tease them and then I'll feel better about myself.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Because what it does is it gives them a little bit a feeling of control or power whereas oftentimes people that are doing that, that's what they're lacking.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. It's a bully. It's like being a bully.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: They all come from that same need that they're satiating themselves just like with junk food or anything else or drugs. It's all pretty much the same and they're not aware of it.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. What you were saying is after you did yoga and you came from a different place, that's where your own personal power lies. Because when you can step back and look at the other person and realize what's really going on with that other person that, boy, they're in not a good place. That's where they're coming from.
Dr. Dan: You come from a place of compassion from that.
Siri Shakti: Yes. It doesn't mean …
Dr. Dan: Not sympathy, compassion.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, compassion. It doesn't mean you have to like be buddy, buddy with them …
Dr. Dan: No, you don't.
Siri Shakti: … but it helps you to be able to keep your own personal power in the situation.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Sometimes, you have to deal with people like that in your life because it's a family member or somebody that's in your life that you can't really just be like, oh, I never want to see you again, because they're your best friend's wife or husband or something like that. You work with them, they're a co-worker or they're a partner or something like that. The best you can do is limit yourself around them, around that stuff and not let it affect you.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Do lots of yoga if you have to deal with all that and meditation.
Siri Shakti: Go to our website and do some yoga.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. What I like to do is I like to flash a flashlight on it. You see me do this. We talked about that at a dinner party we were at. This person was talking about all those negative stuff and I just said, wow, you know the world's going to end, and all this other stuff. I just made jokes about it …
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: … and they got frustrated. They're going to avoid you at other parties. You can still be courteous and you're not making fun of them …
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: … you're just flashing a flashlight on it. That happens with us all the time. Whether we talk about family members or people in our life when we get to talking or we're talking to them, whether it's at a family event or they just decide to call you to unload all this stuff, but they're not looking for solutions.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: They're not looking for help. They're looking for sympathy. What happens?
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: What happens after is I'll let you go into your own person story. I know you have something you want to talk about that.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, what were you going to say first?
Dr. Dan: I was going to say that they want to unload all this on you because they want sympathy. It's like they're just dumping everything on … it'll be like somebody coming to your house, bringing all their dirty laundry that they have 12 dogs, 20 cats and there's urine and poop all over their clothes. They're bringing it to your house and they're just dumping it in the middle of your living room. Then, when you go to clean it up they say, no, no, no. Leave it there. Leave it there. They don't want you to do anything with it other than you have it as well. They're not aware that they're doing this.
When you try to help them, they will be like, okay, well yeah I tried that. I don't know. They're just going through that because they want that sympathy still. If you try to help them and that's all you do instead of giving them sympathy and you try and help them and you give them solutions, then they're not going to call you anymore because you're not giving them that sympathy.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Yeah. I've actually had people in my life, in both of our lives, that what I realize …
Dr. Dan: Family, friends …
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: People that we've worked with.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. What I've realized is that sympathy is very compelling. Really, I know our teacher Guru Singhh has talked about his before, we've discussed this with him that humans are the only earthlings, I say earthlings because we're part of this earth just like the rest of the animals, are the only ones that ever have a need for sympathy. You don't see a little baby bear going around saying, I need sympathy.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. It was like ooh-ooh-uh-oh.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. No, no, no.
Dr. Dan: Somebody ate my porridge, mom.
Siri Shakti: Sympathy is very compelling and it can become really an addiction.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, like a drug.
Siri Shakti: Like a drug.
Dr. Dan: It is a drug because it's a chemical reaction in your brain which is a drug.
Siri Shakti: Yes. Because in that moment, what do you get? You get love, you get connection, you get attention. You get reassurance, right?
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: I've had people in my life that constantly either complain about what it is that they're going through or they're fishing for help. Then, you and I or just individually, have given advice, have given help and I'm not going to name names but they've used this advice maybe for a few days, not even a few weeks I wouldn't say, may be two weeks at the most. At first, they were saying, this is working. Wow, I should do this all the time.
The next time I check in with them, which is just a few weeks down the road, they've completely stopped doing all of those things and they're feeling exactly the same way. They're saying, I don't why I keep feeling this way. It's like this pattern. What is that explanation of doing or that example of doing the same thing over and over again? It's a definition of insanity.
Dr. Dan: Definition of insanity or something. I think that was Einstein. At least that's what somebody told me.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Guys, I'm not trying to say I haven't done this, believe me, there are patterns and things I have done over and over again and things I've said and told myself. I'm constantly looking for how to grow and how to change. I'm always trying to work on these things. Now I've come to a place in my life where I'm catching my patterns and catching …
Dr. Dan: The important thing is catching yourself just like that earlier example we gave where you get upset at me or something. Then, before, it took a couple days for you to be like, okay, okay. I get it.
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: Oppose to now, it just takes a couple minutes.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Now you can't even remember all of those examples because it's been a while. You've just gotten so much better at it.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: The same thing goes here is there's nothing wrong with it. A couple weeks later, they stop doing it or they've stopped doing it for a couple of weeks. Then they call you, yeah, yeah. I know. I know. All they got to do is just be like, okay. You know what, you're right. I'm going back. I'm going back. I'm doing it. Instead of like, yeah, it didn't work.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, I just don't know what to do.
Siri Shakti: Instead of picking it up again and saying, well, you know what, I've stopped doing it. I'm going to get back into it.
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: It just becomes this … Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Getting the accountability partner. Get somebody, if it's your spouse or your loved one or your best friend or a family member. Get somebody also has either went through this journey already or they want to go on this journey with you …
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: … and support each other.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: It doesn't help to obviously go to somebody that doesn't want to. They're like, oh, I like living in sympathy but I'll help you.
Siri Shakti: Before I forget, because this will go hand in hand with this, when you make a choice to start working on yourself in this way and become aware of your patterns and inner dialogue, a big part of this goes back to what it is that you tell yourself. It's not just what you're telling other people.
Dr. Dan: An internal dialogue.
Siri Shakti: This internal dialogue. I'm going to give you an example from my own life because this was an issue I dealt with for years. When we first started homeschooling, I was passionate about homeschooling and I wanted to do it and I knew I was committed to it. One thing that was happening within me, and I'm not going to blame people, but it was definitely a residue from things that people told me in my past, like teachers and things like that. I always had this feeling like I was kind of … or I'm just going to be honest, like I was stupid.
When it came time to teaching our oldest daughter like reading and writing specifically, because those were a challenge for me, like spelling and punctuation was a challenge for me growing up. I had this inner dialogue with myself that, who do you think you are to be able to teach your child? You struggled with these things. That became so deeply engrained in me that it was an unconscious level too, like this disbelief that I could actually do it. For about three years, what this did or what this does to you is when you have a limiting statement or belief that you're saying to yourself, it really puts a, I would say … when you think of a river.
A river flowing, let's think of it in terms of that. It's like you're putting a wall in the flow of that river, which would be the river that you would find solutions and creativity. I was actually stopping the flow of creativity and solutions. I would sit down the computer to try to come up with answers of how I could teach these things. I was already so in the mindset that I wasn't going to find the solution that I wasn't finding the solutions. How we said that words create our reality.
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: Finally, I started to slowly take back my own personal power because I started to see after time and time again of talking to you about this and that I was my own worst enemy. I was the one causing this challenge. I started saying things to myself like, you got this, Siri Shakti. You are smart. You are an intelligent woman. You're an author. You have the knowledge to teach your child or if you don't have the knowledge, you have the capability to find the knowledge effortlessly.
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: That is what I had … the thing is, it's like retraining yourself. I would write this down. I'd put it on the fridge, I'd put in my car. I'd put it next to my computer. I would say this to myself all the time until it came to the point where I don't have to say it to myself anymore because it was just my belief.
Dr. Dan: That was in your DNA now.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: It was part of you.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Now homeschooling is, I wouldn't use the word effortlessly …
Dr. Dan: Not everything is perfect and you have no problems.
Siri Shakti: No.
Dr. Dan: Just like in the movies, right? They lived happily ever after.
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: It's easier.
Siri Shakti: It's easier and it came to the point where now I'm just like I totally believe in myself. If I come across something that I don't know, I'm like, it's all good. I can go look online. I'm going to find the answer.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. It gets easier just like exercise, right? If you have never run a mile and you try and run a marathon, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Or you try and do like … how long is an IRONMAN, do you know? Or how long is a marathon? Do you know that?
Siri Shakti: Full marathon?
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: It's like 20. I think it's 20 miles.
Dr. Dan: Okay. If a marathon is 20 miles and you've only ran … you've never even ran before your entire life, how well do you think you're going to do on that marathon, right? It's going to seem like this like crazy impossible challenge, especially if you go out there and try and do it. If you keep in mind that you have to train up to that, then you … instead of focusing on that 20 miles, you focus on one mile, then you focus on two miles, then you focus on three miles and you just keep going and you just get stronger and stronger the more you do it. You recover faster, you start to feel better. Then, you can just start to run further and further.
That's the same thing, the same way of looking at this is you're just going to take one little step. One little step and just get better at it. The more you do it, the stronger you get and the more effortless it'll be and then you'll even forget like how it used to be tough to run that one mile or to do that one thing and catching yourself doing it. It really just boils down to asking better quality questions as well. This goes hand in hand with earlier … or one of the other episodes we were talking about challenges versus problems. I don't like to say, oh, I'm trying to solve this problem or I've got this problem or this is a problem. Instead, I like to look at them as challenges, right? Because nobody wants to deal with problems, right?
Siri Shakti: Right.
Dr. Dan: Instead, it's like, oh this is a challenge. What is a challenge? A challenge is something for you to overcome and you can make it more fun. Instead, I like to look at … ask yourself better questions. Instead of asking questions like, why does this always happen to me? Why is everyone out to get me? How come life is so hard? Why does it have to be so hard? Or, why don't my kids like or love me? Hopefully, you don't ask yourselves that one. I can see some older parents with their older children that don't call them anymore.
Siri Shakti: Right.
Dr. Dan: Saying now like, how come my kids never call me? They're always too busy for me. They don't love me.
Siri Shakti: I've heard that before.
Dr. Dan: If you're and adult and your parent … you haven't spoken to your parents in a while, maybe you should call them, right?
Siri Shakti: Yes. We're going to make everyone feel guilty. Who's guilty?
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: Call your parents.
Dr. Dan: Call your parents, right? If they're negative, this goes perfect for you to help them out, give them some solutions, tell them to listen to this podcast, to this episode, right? Exactly.
Siri Shakti: I like that.
Dr. Dan: If you ask quality questions, just like taking it on as a challenge, your brain will come up with answers. It'll help you come up and overcome those challenges. If you use those bad questions, like, why does this always happen to me? Then your brain is going to come up with an answer. Why? Because that's what it has to do. Yeah. It's not going to leave you in limbo, it's going to … what it's going to say?
Siri Shakti: That's the thing, it usually gives you a negative answer.
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: It always will. Why does this always happen to me? Because you're an idiot and nobody likes you because you're dumb. Because you deserve this. You deserve to be treated this way. It's something you've did in the past, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. You don't want to ask those bad questions because your brain is going to come up with a dumb answer and it's going to suck.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: I guarantee it, right? Instead of asking questions like that, because you can't control your brain for coming up with something. Instead, redirect it. Ask yourself a better quality question, right?
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: Can we give some examples of a better quality question?
Siri Shakti: Let's see. How about …
Dr. Dan: Like why does this always happen to me? Instead of why does this always happen to me …
Siri Shakti: That's interesting.
Dr. Dan: … instead, you can look at like, okay, well, what can I do to help this person. Because it depends on the situation. What can I do to help this person?
Siri Shakti: Yes.
Dr. Dan: Or what can I do to keep this from happening in the future? Because if it's something like in business, I know for me, something happens, some piece of technology breaks and it causes all this headache and it causes like 48 hours of stress because something is broken and customers aren't getting their product or something, then you have to fix it. There are so many variables, it could be somebody you hired, it could be a piece of code. It could be something. Now you ask yourself, well, how can I prevent this from happening in the future? What that can be is maybe you have a backup server. Maybe you have a backup something. You have something in place where you hire somebody that monitors everything. They're your monitor and if something breaks, they're on it right away and they know where to fix it. That's just in business, but in life too, right?
Siri Shakti: I have another one.
Dr. Dan: Yeah.
Siri Shakti: One, I used to say to myself and you hear this all the time, like parents especially, we can't afford this. The kids will ask for something, we can't afford it.
Dr. Dan: Or, that's too much. That's too expensive. That's too much.
Siri Shakti: That's too expensive. Just like I was saying about the floodgates or the river with the stopping the flow of creativity …
Dr. Dan: Our kids catch us. Our kids catch us now on this.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Instead, a way of coming up with solution is how can we afford it?
Dr. Dan: Yeah. If you read this, it might sound wrong because you'd be like, how can I afford this? Not like that. That's not how you're asking it. You're asking from a solution based of, how can I come up with ways that I can afford this?
Siri Shakti: Yes. Or what I've said in the past when we were needed to budget financially, if our kids wanted something and I knew we couldn't really afford at that moment, I would be honest that we don't have the money right now to buy it, but let's find a way to be able to afford it.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Whether that means you put a certain amount of money aside each month until you can pay for it and you have a plan for that, because that's a solution. You're coming from that solution-based question, or it might be you do something on the side that brings that kind of money. Maybe you can sell something that's in your house because now you're coming from, what are some of the ways that I can come up with that I could buy this? Maybe I can sell something I'm not using anymore. Maybe I can create a product online or course online and sell that.
I mean, there are so many different ways that you can do that. For me, it's pretty damn simple. I can just be like, okay, well, let me create an online product. I'll train somebody or teach something. Or I can send out an email and say, hey, I'm offering this one-on-one coaching or this group coaching and I'm only taking out one person or a handful of people depending on how much money I need to raise for something and I want to pay for with cash. Then just do it. You're coming from solutions instead. You're asking yourself like we said, how can I come up with a way to afford this or pay for this?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: I love that. Our kids catch us on this all the time, like if we say something … because it's an auto response, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Because I mean damn, I think we went out, was it yesterday or the day before? I forgot where we went. I was in the Apple store. Yeah, that's where it was. I was in the Apple store and I was getting a new case for my phone and I had to stop there and I had Melina and Bodhi with me. Walking through there, each of them was like … Bodhi was like, hey, I want some Boss headphones or they wanted Beats or whatever. Then Melina wanted the EarPods and she was asking for different things as well. They're both asking for things that were like over 100 bucks. They were asking for Apple TV and stuff like that, and I don't remember exactly what I said but I think they said something like, can you buy this for me? I'm like, you know what? That's too expensive. Sometimes I'll say it and they're like, well, dad, you need to just come up with a way that you can make that money then, right?
Siri Shakti: They do say that. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: It's not like we even taught them that. They just learned it from us because they just hear us, hear us doing that ourselves. Sometimes, I'll catch myself or I'll just reply back with a, yeah. I'm not saying we can't afford it. I'm just saying I don't want to spend that money on that right now. Or, hey, you just lost your wired Boss earphones. How are you going to keep track of two little EarPods that are separated and if you lose one, now you don't have one? How are you going to keep track of that if you can't keep track of this long wire $100 earphones?
Siri Shakti: Good point.
Dr. Dan: Instead of coming from, we can't afford this. That's too expensive. I don't have the money for that. How can I come up with the money for that? What are some ways that I can come up with the money for that?
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I do have another example that came up this morning. Our oldest, Kayleen, who's 16 right now, she came out of her room and she asked me a question. I was in the middle of something and I didn't respond right away. She threw her hands up in the air and she goes, why do I even try? No one listens to me. I turned around right away and I kind of snapped at her a little bit because … this is something that I've heard her say quite often. One thing I said to her is I said, Kayleen, let me tell you something. That is not a mantra that you want to say to yourself on a regular basis, okay?
I explained to her. I said, oftentimes, I give her example. Oftentimes, I ask her something or her siblings and they don't respond. Then I ask again. Sometimes three or four times and finally they answer. Does that mean that no one listens to me? She said, no. I said, but hey, you guys weren't answering right away. That means no one's listening. I should tell myself that all the time, right? Instead, I told her a better quality question. If the person does not answer right away, right away ask yourself, why might this person not be responding immediately? Something like that.
Because I've heard her ask us questions or her siblings and maybe we didn't respond right away and sometimes we do, but it's always because we're either in the middle of something or we're talking to someone else, or we just didn't hear her. That is looking at it from a different point of view. That's being able to see that there's another side of things that does not mean that she's not listened to and not heard.
Dr. Dan: Exactly. They learn a lot of this from TV, TV shows, movies, even on YouTube, a lot of stuff on there where people just have a lot of drama because they want to get sympathy as well. They want to get views on YouTube. TV, TV shows, cartoons, I mean, all that stuff has all those elements in them. Because we went through this, does that mean that you should have them avoid that? No. I mean it's a balance but it's also an opportunity for you to teach them, because imagine if you went to some … we've said this. You've said this, right, Siri Shakti, where you said like, we should just move to an island in the middle of nowhere or into the woods and be away from everybody.
Siri Shakti: I want a farm. Let's move out to the country.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Away from everybody, that there's nobody around. If you do that, then how are you ever going to grow, right? Because then you only know what's around you, and then when you have to be around the rest of the world, then how are you going to be able to not control, but how are you going to be able to get pass that, pass those challenges? Because the first challenge is going to really knock you down because you haven't trained for it. You haven't run that mile and then the second mile and then the third mile to where you're strong enough to be able to do that.
Instead, you're going to be thrown into it if something like that was to happen. Use this as an opportunity to learn. You don't say, okay, kids, go in and watch 20 hours of TV because this is an opportunity for us to learn. No. You have to have that balance. Instead of like eight hours of TV, they can watch like two or three hours of TV or something like that and then the rest is opportunity to learn. You communicate with your kids when you hear or make comments like Siri Shakti just said about Kayleen, and then you come to them with that. Also, something that's good too is like you said that you snapped, which you said that. When you say snapped, it's not like you screamed at or yelled at her or whatever but it was calculated. It was like, really?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: That is actually good as well because now you're not giving her sympathy. You're not saying like, come here. Let me talk to you and give you a learning moment because I love you and I know what you're going through. Because then, you're giving them sympathy on that and then she's going to repeat. You're changing their state. It's a pattern interrupt, as some call it, where you're jolting them like, whoa, what? Sometimes if Bodhi or Mayleena or Kayleen was crying, sometimes I would tickle them and mess with them and say some stuff and they'd be like … they're like, stop, stop. They start laughing but then they go back to crying and then I tickle them again and they start laughing.
Then after that, then I would give them love or I would hear them out or talk to them. Then I might tickle them again but that's interrupting that pattern to where they're not remembering like, if I come crying then I'm going to get this. Instead it's like, okay, okay, okay. I get it.
Siri Shakti: You've always been a lot better than me at that. Sometimes they'll be in an emotional state and you'll get them to laugh and giggle and then all of a sudden, it's like they come out of it, and that I need to master still.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Trust me I had a heck of a lot more practice than you.
Siri Shakti: Okay.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Before we even met, I mean, I was coming out of it when we … actually, I was coming out of it when we met, but man, to get there, it was definitely a lot harder. When I compare what you went through and I went through, I went through so much more, so much more than you. Yeah. Give me sympathy on that one. I'm just kidding.
Siri Shakti: Honey, it's okay. I'm going to pat your bottom. It's all right.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. I'm special. Thank you.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Something I thought about when you were just talking in the past few minutes about like moving away. There's been a few times where I have said like, I just want to move away to somewhere quiet. Or, why can't we live in simplicity in little villages and stuff? I myself, oftentimes, will have that sensation like there's just too much negativity. You turn on the TV and so much words coming at you that are negative or dark and it feels overwhelming, or maybe you're dealing with people in your life. The thing is is that's not the world that we live in and that's … we are human beings at this time and space for a reason.
One thing I really love about Kundalini Yoga is that this is the yoga of what they call The Enlightened Householder. This is a perfect form of yoga for people that are living in the modern world with a full life, with family, with job, with you name it, and being able to use these teachings to stay balanced and centered and uplifted in your life. What I realize, I have those moments where I have a desire to leave and go live remotely, which sounds beautiful. It's not that we can't have like little vacations and go do that, but the truth is is that what the world really needs is people like us and like yourself that are beacons of light right now that are going to be able to withstand the stuff that are coming at them.
I know we're talking about words, so let's talk about it in that reference. We'll be able to withstand all the negative words and information that's coming at them but be able to be strong and centered and in themselves. Those are the types of people that are going to help to make a huge difference in this world. I know you'll agree with me on this.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Here's another reason why, because if you moved away, and again, we're talking about like seclusion. You moved away from everything else because you're like, I can't deal with this world. I'm just going to move away and live simply and be away from everything. There's nothing really wrong with that if that's your calling, but the truth is is like you could only move so far in so many times because if you were to do that, then maybe not your generation but the next one, the next one, and you have kids and it just keeps going and going. At some point, it's going to reach downstream. It's going to reach you because you're in the world's backyard no matter what you think.
If you move 100 miles away from anybody, at some point, the rest of society in the world is going to catch up with you. If you're not going to be a beacon for light or come and do something, then it's going to come into your backyard downstream.
Siri Shakti: Yes. In that case, you will not have strengthened your muscles, in a sense, just to be able to deal with it.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, exactly. Obviously, and again, it just made me think about like, well, don't use this as … and I don't think anybody would, but don't use this as like, oh it builds character if a bully is bullying your kid or something like that. That makes you stronger that they're picking on you and making you feel like … no.
Siri Shakti: No, no, no.
Dr. Dan: Definitely. There's no excuse for bullying and you definitely want to stop that.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Another thing too is when it comes to sympathy, it reminded me of something in passing that happens constantly, which is something like when you have a phone call and whether it'd be a business partner. Like in my example, business partner or somebody you work with or a family member or even when you're at the grocery store or out to dinner or lunch or whatever and somebody says, how are you doing today? That's just like a how's the weather kind of thing.
They're not looking to hear your life story, they're not looking to find out like how you're feeling today and how last night was a hard night. You wouldn't be at the grocery store and hopefully they say like, how you doing? All they're saying is how you doing and they just expect a, oh good, how are you? Oh, I'm good as well. Then, that's it. You're not going to sit there and talk about like, oh my life is a mess. I've got this headache and nobody loves me and I think I'm broke. Or anything like that, trying to get that sympathy. You don't want to do that.
There are times that, and if you do this to a family member, because I mean I know we've had this in our life with family members and friends and people like that, that you say how are you doing and they just go through this long laundry list of how they're dying and they're scared of this or they're scared of that or they feel like they're ugly, or they feel like they're dumb or whatever. I mean, over the years is this kind of been something forward. Instead of doing that yourself, don't do it, don't look for that sympathy. Be careful when you are explaining something like that that you're not looking for sympathy, because that has a different charge to it and energy to it.
Like for instance, if I didn't get any sleep and I'm like going off like, let's say, two hours of sleep or something and my head is hurting and my business partner Ben calls me in the morning and something automatically goes, how you doing today? Sometimes, in that case, I will let him know. I will say, I got about two hours of sleep last night and my head is hurting, but I'm going to push through it. I did some yoga. I'm feeling as good as I can and let's just get this going and it's not … and he'll even say like, oh, I'm sorry man that sucks. I'm not looking for that sympathy and I do appreciate any answer I get.
I'm only telling him that because in case he had some scheme, idea or whatever of like, hey, let's pull an allnighter tonight and create a product and do all these other stuff, so he knows already either not to bring that up. Or when if he says, let's do that, then I'm going to be like, you know what, no, tomorrow, let's do it because I didn't get enough sleep, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: That's the only reason why I'll do that is if it will help our conversation or the day or whatever it might be, then that's what I'll do. Just like if somebody was to call you and you guys normally work out together or exercise or go on a run like if there was somebody that you went out that you would go like once a week or twice a week out for a run. They call you and say, how you doing today? You could tell them like, I didn't get enough sleep or I've got this cramp on my leg, because now you're not going to go running. I guess, we're not running? Yeah, I got to like wait till tomorrow or whatever. Let's reschedule. A family member calling and saying, how you doing? Just don't unload on them like everything that's bad in your life, because they can't help you and you're not looking for sympathy or anything like that. I mean it didn't come up in a conversation, but just be aware of that.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Be careful that you're not looking for that sympathy because it is a drug. Just like if I'm at dinner, like we were at dinner and we were at a sushi place and Fashion Island, was it last night or the night before? I can't remember.
Siri Shakti: Yeah, the night before.
Dr. Dan: We were there and what does the waiter ask? How you doing today? I'm not going to go through and talk about how things suck or anything like that, no matter what. Oh, I just had this really bad phone call with this blah, blah, blah and they're trying to make me feel crappy, but I would let them. Could you imagine how that conversation would go?
Siri Shakti: You know, I've had people do that to me before and I'm like oh, god, like I started to kind of walk away like, okay.
Dr. Dan: I worked at my parents' restaurant, right, at the Copper Skillet for years and I would ask people, how you doing today? Yes, I would get all kinds of crazy answers and I'd just be like, all right, can I walk away now?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Right.
Siri Shakti: Sometimes, also I mean, I'm not saying you always have to use this, but sometimes fake it till you make it is like really powerful because I've heard a story. I forgot who it was. Actually, maybe it was our teacher Guru Singh, I think, yeah he was saying that. He was telling us a story about a woman that he knows and she was going through a really hard time and she decided she was going to start telling people that she was great. When anyone would ask how she was doing every day, she would be like. I'm great. Everything is awesome.
At first, it felt forced, it felt fake but all of a sudden, what started happening, she started feeling great. Things started happening that it made her feel great. I know there could be arguments like, oh, you can't fake it all the time. Really, I mean, sometimes you got to give a little effort. Things may not be going that great, but if we, just like the example of the water, they took the sample of the polluted water, well sometimes that's how we're feeling, right. Polluted, we're feeling down.
Dr. Dan: Yeah, totally.
Siri Shakti: Then, they put those beautiful words on it and what started to happen to the water, it started to change for the better. That's the same thing. You start to tell yourself and tell people how wonderful you're doing. Or telling yourself internally that things are going well and that's what starts to happen. Your reality begins to match that.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. You can't do anything about it anyways if somebody is like in passing, asking, how you doing? Oh, I've got this headache and I'm all, well I mean yeah, what are they going to do? Give you something special like magic that they're going to remove your headache or whatever it might be? Of course not, no. Yeah, so don't even do that. Faking it till you make it is just basically saying, if they're not going to be able to help you, why pollute their water too.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I have an example I'd like to share too from my own experience that what really goes with this that about a year ago I started having some challenges with my eyes. It was probably the scariest thing that I had ever been through because everything, through my eyes, looked imbalanced. I didn't know what was going on. I went to so many doctors and healers and what started to happen through this though is because I really felt so insecure, so unsafe because I didn't know what was happening, is I would ask my husband, you Dan, every day a couple times a day, like I would voice to you how it felt.
I would voice to you what was going on, and I wanted you to say to me, it's okay, or give whatever response you needed to give. What I began to realize is that I had built up a sort of an addiction to relying on you to tell me that things were okay. What I also began to realize is that I was giving away my own … some of my own power by expecting you to be able to fix it for me.
What I started doing is I decided to start talking to myself differently. This is me faking it till I made it. I decided to say to myself constantly, all is well, I'm at ease. My eyes are beautiful and clear. I'm in alignment. I would say that especially when I was driving because driving felt extra scary because I have to focus on so many things. I'd even do … I get my body into it. I would do a mudra, which is a hand posture with my right hand, it's called Gyan Mudra pointing your pointer finger to your thumb. That is the mudra for knowing and for knowledge. I would put it at my heart center while I'm driving with my left hand. I would say that mantra and those words that I spoke to myself combined with that hand mudra made me feel centered. It started to make me feel safe, a sense of safety which is what I really needed.
It's been a couple months of doing this and I have to tell you, not only have my eyes gotten better because I think the stress of the situation was also making it worst, but I have felt like I have brought back my own personal power and I'm finding solutions now. In fact, what I feel is that I have found this sense of power to be able to heal my yes and that's what I'm studying right now is how to selfheal without … going without glasses. That is going to be my journey that I'm embarking on right now.
Dr. Dan: Yup. Full disclaimer here is … or disclosure or whatever you want to call it. Be sure to consult a physician, a doctor before you attempt to do anything like that because we don't want you to say like, oh, Siri Shakti said I can heal my eyes and then they take off their glasses but they have really bad vision and then they try and drive and crash.
Siri Shakti: Oh, no, no, no.
Dr. Dan: Be careful.
Siri Shakti: Let me touch on that. All of this realization came after seeing multiple doctors getting even like a CT scan and coming up to … and basically, everyone said, you're fine. Your eyes are fine. After receiving that comment over and over again from doctors and even my eye doctor would say, your eyes are fine except for your slight prescription that you need for farsightedness and your astigmatism. I'm like, all right, I came up to the point where I'm like, I'm out of answers. I'm going to have to deal with this within myself. The words really have helped in that and are continuing to help.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. Right now, you're working on healing your vision?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: There are other people doing it as well and …
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I'm starting to use what is called the Bates Method. I'm still learning about it, but it's all these different eye exercises. Then, from what I understand, you slowly lessen your prescription so you don't go cold turkey without glasses. You lessen them until you get to the point where I've heard stories of like this woman where now she doesn't even need glasses and so, yeah.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. That's awesome. Because you were looking for sympathy as you're explaining this, but so everybody listening knows how intense this was for you in the beginning, I mean, you would just constantly cry. I ended up after you took Mayleena to a dance competition, you came back, you actually had said that you were … like you felt like you were dying.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Actually, you're panicking so bad that we ended up having to go to the emergency room and you thought that you were passing out and having a heart attack or something like that. You thought you had a tumor. You have like all these things going on and you were going to die. I mean, you're right in your will and your head you said. You were thinking you were going to die. No joke, it was that intense for you and now it's still a little bit intense for you, I can tell, but nothing like that. If that was a scale of 100, you're down to a one now, maybe a two at times.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Dr. Dan: That was insane. It was so crazy.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. I really want you to understand that this is how powerful words are that even through a scary situation like that, words gave me back my power that can give …
Dr. Dan: Words, thoughts, I mean, it's all the same, it's all together now.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. It was the words and the thoughts because it was what I was telling myself and thinking constantly. My mind would wonder constantly to the negative of like, I'm dying or something like that. I would just kind of like you do as a parent or with a child, you bring them back to what they need to be doing. I would bring myself back to what I'm supposed to be focusing on.
Dr. Dan: Exactly.
Siri Shakti: Before we get into our RockStar Mission, what I want to repeat one more time for you guys so you just … so we really get to this point is that all that we've talked about right now is that the words that you speak and that you say to yourself that you think are so powerful, that your words are your lens in which you see your reality through. Use them consciously and practice this. Teach yourself to be aware of what it is that you're telling yourself and that you're thinking to yourself.
Dr. Dan: Exactly.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Siri Shakti. Yeah. On the website, we'll actually have a link to the book, to “The Hidden Messages of Water”. Also, anything else that we've talked about, we'll put links and resources including, I'm sure we'll put something on there about the, what was that? The Gyan Mudra?
Siri Shakti: Yeah the mudra, okay.
Dr. Dan: Mudra, so we'll put that on there as well. You can get that all at rockstarinlife.com and also the transcript, download my free books, training, yoga, meditation, homeschooling advice and so much more. Go to rockstarinlife.com and join the RockStar in Life revolution today.
Siri Shakti: Awesome.
Dr. Dan: All right. Are we ready for our RockStar mission today?
Siri Shakti: We're ready. Let's do it.
Dr. Dan: You're speaking for everybody, right?
Siri Shakti: Yes, everyone's ready.
Dr. Dan: Love it. All right. For your RockStar Mission today, grab your journal, paper, whatever you're going to use, make sure you're not driving when you do this. Pull over, right. Write down three things that you've either said to yourself or someone around you recently that wasn't a quality question or statement, or it was a limiting belief. Any of the things that we've been talking about. Something that hasn't been empowering you, that hasn't been serving you that you've been looking for sympathy for when you should actually be looking for solutions.
Think of three things and write them down and you can write more, you can definitely do that and this might be something that you repeat to yourself constantly. It might not just be one time. You might be saying this like daily, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Definitely, that needs to be one of those things that you write down, one of those three at the very minimum. Write those things down and then for each of those three things, for all three of those, that didn't sound right, I don't know why.
Siri Shakti: For each of those three.
Dr. Dan: For each of those three things that you chose or more, write down a better way to ask that question or replace it with something better, like a better statement or a better question or a better belief, or a solution. Something that you can do that's different than you were doing before, right?
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Awesome.
Siri Shakti: All right. Yeah. What that's going to do is that when you get that on paper … first of all, writing is so powerful, but getting it on paper, you're going to be able to see very clearly like oh shoot. I've been saying some pretty … eliminating negative stuff to myself. Then, when you come up with a better option, you're going to feel energetically, you'll be able to feel the difference. Say both of them to yourself and think them to yourself and you'll notice very clearly that there is a different vibration in each of those phrases or questions.
Dr. Dan: Yeah. It's great as well because this is something that you can do every single day.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: You might be out in public or you might be on the phone, or you might be working and a family member or a loved one, or a friend, or in your job, or your business, you might get something that, either somebody says to you or you say to yourself or you say to somebody else, and then all of a sudden, you might catch yourself and be like ooh, that probably wasn't the best thing, write that down.
Siri Shakti: Yeah.
Dr. Dan: Write that down right there and then. Write it down and then write what are like one or two or three things I can say different when you catch yourself? The more you do this, it will be to a point to where it's second nature. It's your DNA to where you don't even have to write it down, you just catch yourself.
Siri Shakti: Yeah. It does, yeah. All right. Fellow RockStars in Life, you have your RockStar mission, so go out there and make this part of your life and don't forget to be a RockStar in your life.
Dr. Dan: Make the world your stage.
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